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Old 02-24-2019, 05:06 PM #11
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Yeah, I'd just like to name that I struggle with the same thing. I don't have a relationship right now but I spend what I think is too much money on webcam sex chats. It's hard to quit. But I also know I cannot continue this way. I liked what someone else said about having a problem with intimacy though. I guess I look for the same thing in webcam sex chats and it's nowhere to be found there. So if anyone has any advice regarding that, it would be helpful to me, too.
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if you are trying to find intimacy in webcam chats, like romance or etc, then you probably won't find it there; i agree.


if you want to find intimacy, you can probably put the money towards a more luxurious date night rather than webcam sessions.



some women take advantage of men's sexuality to make money, hence webcams. they aren't really doing it for intimacy as much as they are just taking advantage of you.


dating is less sexual, i feel. So women wouldn't be able to directly take advantage of your sexuality, while you will still get that feeling of intimacy, eh? Of course, intimacy probably means different things to different people.


I feel that intimacy is greatest when it's felt and returned by the partner. And I know a lot of women who get intimately excited about dating, but not so intimately excited about sex.
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if you are trying to find intimacy in webcam chats, like romance or etc, then you probably won't find it there; i agree.


if you want to find intimacy, you can probably put the money towards a more luxurious date night rather than webcam sessions.



some women take advantage of men's sexuality to make money, hence webcams. they aren't really doing it for intimacy as much as they are just taking advantage of you.


dating is less sexual, i feel. So women wouldn't be able to directly take advantage of your sexuality, while you will still get that feeling of intimacy, eh? Of course, intimacy probably means different things to different people.


I feel that intimacy is greatest when it's felt and returned by the partner. And I know a lot of women who get intimately excited about dating, but not so intimately excited about sex.
I would not say they are "taking advantage of men". Webcam chats are a service being offered that people can pay for (both men and women use webcam chats). When you pay for groceries, do you accuse the people working at the grocery store that they're taking advantage of you? No. It's a legitimate service, just like sex work.
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of course grocery stores are taking advantage of me. I'm a consumer and they take advantage of the neighborhood's population to make a profit. grocery stores are a business. they take advantage of people's hunger. they aren't giving us groceries because they love us or want to be intimate with us. if we didn't need food, then the grocery stores would set up business elsewhere.
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There are free resources out there. I've heard of SLAA, Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous. They might even have phone or online meetings if there aren't any in person meetings where you live. There might be other 12 step support groups for that, but you could start there, to maybe find others in recovery from this and learn from their experience.
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Overnight, i realized that the grocery store example was probably a bit lacking and incomplete.

Some religious and legal societies incriminate prostitution. If a man engages in prostitution, he can get into legal trouble. This is especially true with child pornography and sexual exchanges with minors. Thus local sexual services are discouraged and scarce.

So some women, seeing the lack of local sex services, decide to sell such services through webcam; even though such services aren't legal and can get a man in legal trouble. I've read many articles about men arrested for engaging in sexual activities with minors and prostitutes.

thus, those women are taking advantage of a shortage of sex services in an area via providing the services online.

In a business sense, they are taking advantage. they are making use an opportunity to make money. And just like any other business, technically nothing is wrong with that.

On a side note, morally and legally, men like skibum801 and james could be endangered by the business, if those men are in a society that outlaws prostitution and have a strong sexuality.

It's like a man selling street drugs to women in his area. He takes advantage of their tendency to abuse substances, even though he knows that they can legally get in trouble for being associated with street drugs in certain situations.
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