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I am starting tro realise that an erotic terms I am a masochist, and that some of my past bad life decisions had masochistic underpinnings.

This makes me start to think if satisfying those needs in a controlled environment, ie. with my partner to an extent that suits both of us, is a way to get a better control of what happens at work ( I am often 'beaten up' by manipulative people and their followers) - and do I have a chance to get promoted to higher ranks, or is it a cul de sac.

When does the 'monster' grow our of proportions and when does it turn into a useful resource of energy?

Are there any CEOs and country leaders who are masochistic but somehow managed to harness the energy?
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Hello cklasik,

Many people harness the energy and play this out on BDSM with consenting partners. The media portrays some of these people as CEOs and other high-power figures, although they do not have to fall into these categories.

The book and movie, Fifty Shades of Gray, portrays a powerful executive involved in this lifestyle.

BDSM is very highly controlled, highly disciplined, harnessed energy and involves a form of sex play between two consenting adults. The benefits? I am not sure, although those drawn to and highly disciplined within these practices seem to derive many rewards.

I am not sure I have answered your questions.

There is a lot of information on BDSM, also known as "kink," online.

I hope you finds the answers helpful to you.


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I am a masochist both physically and emotionally. I'm also a successful business owner. Though I don't see a correlation between the two. I get my masochistic needs met personally and they don't cross over professionally. If anything I feel it's necessary to put masochistic desires aside when perusing a career. It is not a benefit when in a position of authority. At least that is my experience.
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So it is doable. Good to know. How about indulgence in controlled environment? Does it lead to an escalation of desires?
And how to make sure your partner doesn't spill your secrets in the presence of friends and associates? As much as I find my partner loyal, caring and loving, I sometimes tend to think she does humiliate me intentionally in the presence of some men, unfortunately, her son is one of them. The worst thing, she does not even want to hear when I try to make her see the social cues she might overlook as a woman.
This is the area in which I find her cold and disloyal, like her alter ego.
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Send me a pm if you would like. I have no problem sharing. I'd like to ask some questions and such too.
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Hi....I'm brand new, so please forgive any errors, and I'm open to suggestion. I've recently studied this issue, masochism, and feel that it comes from a learned response in early years. To me, if that permeates to your professional career, or other areas it can lead to "passivity." Some articles say that 'what gets your motor running" sexually has many arms and legs out there.


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I am starting tro realise that an erotic terms I am a masochist, and that some of my past bad life decisions had masochistic underpinnings.

This makes me start to think if satisfying those needs in a controlled environment, ie. with my partner to an extent that suits both of us, is a way to get a better control of what happens at work ( I am often 'beaten up' by manipulative people and their followers) - and do I have a chance to get promoted to higher ranks, or is it a cul de sac.

When does the 'monster' grow our of proportions and when does it turn into a useful resource of energy?

Are there any CEOs and country leaders who are masochistic but somehow managed to harness the energy?
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I somehow manage to overcotme passivity at a high cost though.
May succumbing to such tendencies in a controlled environment with a partner satiate the tendency and make it more manageable or does it aggravate it?

How to sort out the internal conflicts? I guess I provokae situations in which I am mistreated, but I hate and fight inequalities, and would hope to find ways to act out the SM roles as safely as possible.

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I guess you just have to learn to separate the two so that your masochism doesn't interfere with your everyday life.
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