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Old 08-30-2018, 05:10 AM #1
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Hey everyone! This is my first thread on this forum!

I don't know if I qualify as a sex addict or not, but that it has wreaked havoc on my life. I have been involved in casual flings with men for the past 4 years and am still seeing a man now. Even though he's very nice to me, I can't bring myself to trust any guy completely and neither can I stay away. I want to break my vicious cycle and I dont know how.


I know people will suggest to stop the flings, but I get super restless if I am not having sex upto a point that I once locked myself in my room for 2 days masturbating. I really just don't get what is happening and it is affecting my studies
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Hello Violet: I believe this is your first posted thread here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find PC to be of benefit.

I don't know as there is anything I can tell you with regard to your concern. However here are links to some articles, from PsychCentral's archives, on the subject of sex addiction including a quiz you can take on the subject of sex addiction to help you determine if this is something for which you should seek professional mental health treatment:

Who Is a Sex Addict?

What Causes Sexual Addiction?

How are Female Sex Addicts Different from Males?

Sex Addiction: Not Just a Man's Issue

Sex Addiction in Modern Times

https://psychcentral.com/quizzes/sexual-addiction-quiz/

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Welcome Voilet95. I hope you find others who can relate with you, and get all the help and support you need.
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Can you elaborate on how it is wrecking your life, what your concerns are and what your goal is? Feel free to PM me if you would like. I'm happy to talk it out.

There is nothing wrong with casual flings and lots of sex. The problem is that it isnt working for you.
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I guess you just have to figure why it is that you're doing it. Do you get a confidence high off of it, only for it the wear off until you get your next fix? Are you doing it to cope with something else that's missing in your life? Are you worried that you might fall in love with someone only for them to disappoint you? I'm asking because these are a few of the reasons I've done it in the past, maybe it's the same for you. Something to think about
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It has affected my studies too!!! You are not alone.

On the other side, I have 23 days clean. I'm not in a relationship, I'm working on myself and being the person I know I can be. Yes it's tough but possible with others help!
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