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I'm not a professional but I don't think you're addicted to sex. I think you just want to connect with a woman on an emotional and physical level, and the fact that you're not getting that is making you feel sexually frustrated. I'm not in those chat rooms with you, but try to figure out what kinds of things you're saying that are turning these women off. Women like to feel comfortable and safe with men they talk to, so overt sexual advances will usually repel them.

After all, men's biggest fear of women is that they'll be laughed at, and women's biggest fear of men is that they'll be murdered. That's why it's so important to make a woman feel like she can trust you. You can do this by making her laugh, showing interest in her life and hobbies, seeing what she's passionate about, and after gathering enough information, suggesting a hang out in a public setting, doing an activity that you'll both have fun doing. Hopefully it'll go well, but if ****ing her is the final destination, that'll show in your actions, and she'll sense that and be turned off. Play it cool, and actually do your best to try to get to know her.

You seem like a pretty handsome guy under that beard. Maybe give it a little trim, take a pic with a nice filter, and put yourself out there on a dating website. A lot of them have systems that match you up with people that have similar profiles to you, so your soulmate might be out there waiting for you and you don't even know it!
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I'm not a professional but I don't think you're addicted to sex. I think you just want to connect with a woman on an emotional and physical level, and the fact that you're not getting that is making you feel sexually frustrated. I'm not in those chat rooms with you, but try to figure out what kinds of things you're saying that are turning these women off. Women like to feel comfortable and safe with men they talk to, so overt sexual advances will usually repel them.

After all, men's biggest fear of women is that they'll be laughed at, and women's biggest fear of men is that they'll be murdered. That's why it's so important to make a woman feel like she can trust you. You can do this by making her laugh, showing interest in her life and hobbies, seeing what she's passionate about, and after gathering enough information, suggesting a hang out in a public setting, doing an activity that you'll both have fun doing. Hopefully it'll go well, but if ****ing her is the final destination, that'll show in your actions, and she'll sense that and be turned off. Play it cool, and actually do your best to try to get to know her.

You seem like a pretty handsome guy under that beard. Maybe give it a little trim, take a pic with a nice filter, and put yourself out there on a dating website. A lot of them have systems that match you up with people that have similar profiles to you, so your soulmate might be out there waiting for you and you don't even know it!

you've made a lot of assumptions about me. it's probably not safe for me to read this post unless you can quote parts of this sex journal to base your assumptions. I won't tolerate or suffer prejudice or discrimination in this safe space for sex addicts.


try posting this again, but use quotes from my public sex journal to defend your assumptions.
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you've made a lot of assumptions about me. it's probably not safe for me to read this post unless you can quote parts of this sex journal to base your assumptions. I won't tolerate or suffer prejudice or discrimination in this safe space for sex addicts.


try posting this again, but use quotes from my public sex journal to defend your assumptions.
I'm sorry that it came off as judgmental, I'm only trying to help. Like I said, I'm not a professional. I was making assumptions based on the fact that you said women will often cut communication off from you, and that might be because of the things that you say to them. Even if you are being respectful, sometimes the setting alone will change the context. Instagram, for example, is a place where women will often get tons of unwanted attention from men, so they filter out and block the guys who they think are potentially going to bother them. I wouldn't take that personally, and would try communicating with women in an online setting where they are actually looking for that. Have you ever tried using OkCupid, eHarmony, or anything like that?

You're right though, I don't know you, or your history, and I shouldn't have jumped to conclusions. Forgive me.
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you've made a lot of assumptions about me. it's probably not safe for me to read this post unless you can quote parts of this sex journal to base your assumptions. I won't tolerate or suffer prejudice or discrimination in this safe space for sex addicts.


try posting this again, but use quotes from my public sex journal to defend your assumptions.
Also, I should've mentioned this before, but I'm also a sex addict. I just went on a huge sex bender last month and have only recently decided to cut myself off form dating apps, saunas, and bars altogether. My point is, I can relate to you.
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yeah, i think i came across a bit rough there. sorry. I just got harassed by some moderator in a community for "virgins." i'm not having a good day.


but yeah, i misread that you said that i was a sex addict, which i felt was redundant because we're in that subforum. but you actualy said you think i'm not one. thanks for that, i guess.


I'm a virgin, so i've technically not had sex before. but I had a history of porn and privately communicating with women though, to the detriment of my health and to the point of suicidal tendencies. honestly, i might not have an addiction anymore though; so you might be right. I've actually quit porn, and recently stopped privately messaging women. I havent really been posting in this subforum as much as before.
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I've actually quit porn, and recently stopped privately messaging women. I havent really been posting in this subforum as much as before.
That's good but then how are you managing your urges?
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sometimes I just go into a dark room, close my eyes, and masturbate. the imagination can be quite good.
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