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Default Mar 05, 2020 at 04:26 PM
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I am nearing 50 and I seem to have hit a new sexual awakening. I have the need for sex many times a day. My wife is concerned about my increased need for sex. I have always had a healthy sexual appetite but this is unreal. I also have fantasies that I never would have imagined in my younger years. I have an overwhelming desire to share my wife with other men. I fought it for a while but eventually told her about it. She has incorporated it into our sexual play but has said she couldn’t do it for real. I think there something wrong with me. I also have the need to get pegged.
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Default Mar 06, 2020 at 12:12 PM
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Hi Craggyva,

My English is not very good so please excuse my writing. I wish I knew what to say about the situation you describe but sadly I lack wisdom. I don't know, but I would imagine that others who are nearing 50 . . . other men from all over the world have experienced something similar to what you describe.

The human brain is so mysterious and sometimes seem to have a mind of its own. Sometimes when someone is troubled by what their brain is doing, it can help to talk to a professional therapist. Don't know if that would be appropriate or help in your situation but perhaps it is something at least to consider.

So sorry that I lack insight. Hopefully others here on the Forums will make up for my lack of wisdom in this matter by offering their own ideas.

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Default Mar 06, 2020 at 11:05 PM
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I am nearing 50 and I seem to have hit a new sexual awakening. I have the need for sex many times a day. My wife is concerned about my increased need for sex. I have always had a healthy sexual appetite but this is unreal. I also have fantasies that I never would have imagined in my younger years. I have an overwhelming desire to share my wife with other men. I fought it for a while but eventually told her about it. She has incorporated it into our sexual play but has said she couldn’t do it for real. I think there something wrong with me. I also have the need to get pegged.
There's nothing "wrong" with you...I think you're feeling your mortality as you approach a milestone birthday. There is nothing unusual with your desires. Truth be told, they sound pretty tame to me. I'm a female and just turned 60 and my fantasies shock and delight me at the same time.
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Default Mar 07, 2020 at 08:42 AM
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I thought about the mortality piece, I have lost a lot of older family members recently. My concern is that my sexual needs are now dominating my thoughts. I love my wife and kids dearly and do not want to jeopardize our relationships. I am a good provider and I have always put my family’s needs first. Right now though all I want is my needs and desires to be taken care of. I talk to my wife about my fantasies and desires and she humors me to degree because she loves me and wants to understand. I try not to hide things from her, but I have been getting on sex sites and meeting people online for online fun only. I work at night a lot for home and will end up masterbating on cam with women, couples and sometimes men. I feel guilty because I should be loyal to my wife and not having sexual interactions with other people. I have been married for almost 20 years and I love and desire my wife as much as I did when we met. Before we met, I traveled for work and met women and had short intense sexual relationships. I also was never in one place for long period of time. Now I have been in the same job for a decade and the same routines every day. I think part of this is just pure boredom. My concerns is I am heading down a path that I might not be able to control. My online sexual behavior has been anonymous play with people I will never meet. Lately I have been interacting with people in my city that I live and conversations are moving more towards actually meeting. This is a struggle for me and my need to be good is losing to my need to be bad. I am always good., I always do what is expected of me, at home and at work. It is hard to not give in at this point.
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Default Mar 07, 2020 at 09:30 PM
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I thought about the mortality piece, I have lost a lot of older family members recently. My concern is that my sexual needs are now dominating my thoughts. I love my wife and kids dearly and do not want to jeopardize our relationships. I am a good provider and I have always put my family’s needs first. Right now though all I want is my needs and desires to be taken care of. I talk to my wife about my fantasies and desires and she humors me to degree because she loves me and wants to understand. I try not to hide things from her, but I have been getting on sex sites and meeting people online for online fun only. I work at night a lot for home and will end up masterbating on cam with women, couples and sometimes men. I feel guilty because I should be loyal to my wife and not having sexual interactions with other people. I have been married for almost 20 years and I love and desire my wife as much as I did when we met. Before we met, I traveled for work and met women and had short intense sexual relationships. I also was never in one place for long period of time. Now I have been in the same job for a decade and the same routines every day. I think part of this is just pure boredom. My concerns is I am heading down a path that I might not be able to control. My online sexual behavior has been anonymous play with people I will never meet. Lately I have been interacting with people in my city that I live and conversations are moving more towards actually meeting. This is a struggle for me and my need to be good is losing to my need to be bad. I am always good., I always do what is expected of me, at home and at work. It is hard to not give in at this point.
You are ripe for an affair...been there, done that (more than once), not worth it. You're not a "bad" person and neither am I...we're just human. I had affairs for reasons similar to your concerns about heading down that "path"....boredom, too much routine, aching for novelty and excitement.

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Default Mar 09, 2020 at 04:49 PM
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I struggle with the same. I started similar to you and it has snowballed into an avalanche. I want sex all the time and do things I never thought I would..... and enjoy it. Tread carefully, you're in dangerous water.
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