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Default Mar 09, 2020 at 06:23 AM
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I have an addiction to porn and masterbation. I think it's more of a coping thing when I am feeling depressed. I have a hard time sleeping at night and most nights i end up staying up way to late then turning to porn, masterbating before falling asleep with a lot of regret. In regards to it mentally I try to hide it forget about it afterwards pretend like nothing happened but I think I need to change that start acknowledging and addressing the problem.

I guess I have some questions like is this ok to be doing while living with family? Whether they know what's going on and say nothing or whether they don't know is it still ok? I worry alot about how I affect other people and I might feel like I am the reason or cause for everybody's problems around me or that every little thing I do or don't do can or does have a negative affect on those around me. So I am worried about how my porn masterbation addiction affects those around me. And is there anything that I should be aware about?

Do I embrace the fact that I do have this addiction? Do i just accept it and try not to fight it anymore? Is it ok that I masturbate so much?
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I don't know if I really have much of anything to offer with regard to this. But I noticed you had yet to receive a reply. So I thought I would offer one. You mentioned living with family. But you didn't indicate what type of family this is: wife & children, parents & siblings, etc. And I think that makes a difference. If it's parents & / or siblings, I'd be inclined to say it's none of their business period. And there's no harm to them to be concerned about. If it's wife & kids, then the situation becomes more complex.

You asked if you should embrace the fact you have an addiction, just accept it & try not to fight it anymore. You also asked if it's okay you masturbate so much. My personal, non-professional opinion would be these are multi-faceted questions for which there may be few cut-&-dried answers. Plus, as I mentioned above, I think the type of family you live with makes a difference. If it is parent's & (perhaps) siblings then I think who you live with is pretty-much irrelevant. However if you happen to be married, or in a committed relationship, then that becomes relevant because there is research that demonstrates porn watching & masturbation can, over time, impact a person's ability to perform sexually with an intimate partner. So I think you have to consider your circumstances, as well as the degree of guilt & shame you are experiencing over what you are doing & then decide whether or not you personally feel comfortable with what you're doing or if it is causing you undue distress & potentially leading to sexuality-related problems down the road. And if that is the case, then perhaps seeking the services of a skilled human sexuality therapist may be something to consider.

Here are links to 9 articles, from Psych Central's archives, that (hopefully) may be of some help in sorting this out:

Is Masturbation Bad for You?

The Top 10 Myths Behind Masturbation

7 Signs You Have A Problem With Porn

Sexual Dysfunction: The Escalating Price of Abusing Porn

Does Watching Porn Affect Intimate Relationships? (Part One: Men)

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-po...dium=popular17

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/sex/2...church-part-1/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/sex/2...dium=popular17

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/sex/2...dium=popular17

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Default Mar 19, 2020 at 08:07 PM
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As someone who is struggling right now with a porn addiction, I can attest. It might not be too bad right now, but it will get worse the longer it goes unchecked. It will have a greater and greater impact on your life the worse it gets. It's very difficult to overcome. Read the articles Skeezy shared, they're excellent and eye opening.

I'm of the opinion, depending on the person, masturbation unaccompanied by porn can be okay, but it really depends on the person and their situation. For example, I am trying to quit masturbating, at least for a while, until I've got other aspects of my life back under control and I can evaluate whether masturbation is still okay for me then.

Also, I don't think everyone gets addicted to porn, but I do think porn (especially with today's internet) puts a person (especially men) at a high risk of addiction. I'm not going to tell you you're addicted, but if you're already concerned, I think you can determine this for yourself, and then decide if you want to let it control your life, or if you want to master this aspect of yourself.

We're here for you either way, and hope the best for you.

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