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Old 06-12-2011, 01:04 PM   #21
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Sexual addiction has come out of the closet, so to speak, in recent years and now appears to be recognized as a legitimate problem some people face. In recognition of this, we've created this forum to offer a supportive place for people who grapple with sexual addiction.

Please note that if you're easily triggered or are a minor, this forum may not be for you as much of the material discussed here will be possibly triggering or of a sexual nature.

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I really need professional help, but right now I have no health insurance..I have been suffering from Sexual Addiction for a very long time. Lately, I am out of control..
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Old 06-12-2011, 03:21 PM   #22
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a 12 step program of recovery, any one of them but particularly AA, might help you. just use sexual addiction in place of alcohol. these 12 step programs are FREE and there are many ppl who attend that have other addictions. you would find support there to learn how to change your behaviors into constructive living. hope this helps and u'll give it a go.
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Old 06-13-2011, 03:29 PM   #23
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My obsession comes from thinking about sex all of the time and it is a re-occuring fantasy, which as I get older becomes stranger and more upsetting. I am married with grown-up kids. I have never been unfaithful to my wife and never will be. But the fantasise seem to take a life of their own. I write poems about them, make up stories, fantasis when I should be working, reading, paying attention to important matters. Even now as I unburden myself I panic slightly about them.
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Old 09-04-2011, 05:59 PM   #24
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Again, it would be great to know who this is, as I would like to meet this therapist.

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I am a 40 y.o. married, male, sex addict and also suffer from severe anxiety. I see and have seen a female therapist for a couple years now. As a man and a sex addict it is very easy to be triggered or want to act out, I am also an exhibitionist.
Here is what I am having trouble with. Recently I saw my therapist panties when she got into her chair for session, she often sits curled up in it and always wears dresses and skirts. This is about the 5th time I have seen them or up her dress in recent months. 3 weeks ago she leaned forward and I could see one of her nipples as her blouse and bra came forward. I told her as I have told her in the past when I can see her panties. She said I must be mistaken. I assure you I am not. As an addict who finds her attractive I look for these things. I know when I see them. Well last week I accidently took a whole Viagra before our session with all my morning anxiety and depression meds. I just wasnt thinking and I am new to having them. During session I became aroused and told her such because we were having a frank discussion about sex and the trouble I have had climaxing. (The reason I have Viagra is because the SSRI drugs reduced my ability to ejaculate at all and I was told this would help). I noticed several times that she was glancing over at my clearly visible arousal in my shorts. This just made me worse as an exhibitionist (and yes she knows I am, I have always been very open and honest). I actively began to move my erection with my arm as I tried to hide it but just again made it worse. Finally after about 15 minutes I suggested that maybe I should masturbate as I had not climaxed but had sex several times over the previous couple weeks and was very frustrated combined with the working Viagra and still changing cycle of meds I take. She suggested I cover my self with a pillow and go to the restroom to try. I didnt want to risk that so I asked if I could in her office, she agreed that would be safer and got up to leave. As she was leaving I was so aroused and into it I pulled my erection from my shorts and began before she left the office. She stopped at the door to get something, turned back and took a long look at my genitalia in my hand and then left. I did not climax because I thought she was angry or was going to fire me as a client for my behavior. She returned about 5 minutes later and knocked, asked if I was ok. I said there was no success and she came in and we finished the session. I sincerely apologized for my behavior and she said it was ok. Never once did she get mad, seem upset or scared. Is it just me or do I see several red flags in her bahavior? I ask, did she possibly enjoy this or want to be a part of it? As a sex therapist she is aware I would be attempting to see up her dress or down her shirt? Is she VERY understanding having known me for so long and let it slide? Should she have ended session and sent me away or even called the police for my behavior. As far as I am concerned she allowed me to act out. Is it possible she is actually a sex addict as well and also an exhibitionist and has been in a sense taking advantage of me all this time and now is starting to act out herself towards me? We often will have a hug after a session before I leave or she will pat me on the back. I have read that is also a no-no. I have a feeling I know the answer but should I seek out a new therapist? I am getting to the point to where I am addicted to coming to see her and I think she knows it.
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Old 07-11-2012, 08:03 PM   #25
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i am a 42 year old man my wife of three years is32 and she is bi i hooked up with her becuse she was the most beautiful woman i have ever seen i also found her by looking on my space under bi f she likes porn and likes girls she gave me the gratist gift eney one could give she trusted me and we had a few girlfriends we went to a few swinger partys we both loved it we had a few hear her peforms like a porn star with girls and has me joine in no man could ask for more but she is good to do this once in a while and i took her for granit i want it all the time i am pushing her away i talk about it to much dont get me rong i dont wont this so i can have sex with other girls unles she wants me to i love her to much and dont want to lose her so i need help
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i am a 42 year old man my wife of three years is32 and she is bi i hooked up with her becuse she was the most beautiful woman i have ever seen i also found her by looking on my space under bi f she likes porn and likes girls she gave me the gratist gift eney one could give she trusted me and we had a few girlfriends we went to a few swinger partys we both loved it we had a few hear her peforms like a porn star with girls and has me joine in no man could ask for more but she is good to do this once in a while and i took her for granit i want it all the time i am pushing her away i talk about it to much dont get me rong i dont wont this so i can have sex with other girls unles she wants me to i love her to much and dont want to lose her so i need help
I would ask if it is worth it. If it is coming in the middle of you guys then it may be time to make a change.
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If my husband doesn't aknowledge his problem and seek help immediately, our marriage will be over. I don't even know for sure that its not over already.
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Maybe you can help me deceide where to go witht his... This is the second time my 18 year old son (after moving out of my house) has stated that he is having sexual dreams about me, and he is aroused by it and uses it later as material to self pleasure. I have even received photos from him... I try to tell him that it is due to the seperation from me. I tell him that maybe he should talk to someone, he says he is fine that I am attractive and he gets turned on by older women. Please help me help this situation. thanks
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Old 11-17-2012, 04:57 PM   #29
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I have a foot fedtish.I rember kissing my aunts feet when I was young.Now that am older am wanting her feet .I think she would not mind me doing this again.I dont know what to tell her.she knows about me wanting to kiss them.
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Old 12-03-2012, 07:06 AM   #30
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Hello, I am Anne. I don't know how to use this forum or this whole site, I can't seem to understand where posting should be placed for new comers. If you could help me that would be great. Thanks
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