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Default Feb 24, 2012 at 04:51 PM
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I am seeing a counsellor for social anxiety. She is wondering why I am not progressing and speaking to people but I am so embarassed about telling her that I am suffering from erectile dysfunction. I am just wanted to gather the opinions of people on here about whether I should tell her of my problem. I am just so emarassed about it. I have also lost my libido and maybe that would be an easier thing to tell her about at the moment.
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(((emre43))) - I'm sorry this is upsetting and causing you embarrassment. Don't feel embarrassed because this is a common problem. Now there's different causes of ER. There's also a specific one that comes from anxiety - can you explain what kind you have? For example there's common age related ED from lifestyle like smoking, which narrows blood vessels...hence the ED or prostate problems. Then there's emotional ED from things like anxiety...performance anxiety. There's also a less known ED from desensitization, from watching too much porn. I probably talked too much lol, so that's a mini education on the different types of ED.

Do ahead and let her know or tell your family doctor, so they can help you. If the ED from anxiety, let me know and I'll explain what can help this. This is nothing to be ashamed of and not treating this will make your anxiety worse. I hope this makes you feel more comfortable and less alone.

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Hello Emre, I have had ED for years. Tried Viagra and Cialis with mixed results, then they faded away into the horizon. Urologist prescribed a vacuum pump which produced a very usable erection, however it began also to make a hernia-like bubble on the bottom of my penis, so I stopped using it. If you have libido issues, try testosterone. It worked for me; I was so horney I was going crazy. But, it did not help my ED. I would very definitely talk to a therapist about it if I were you. I have been looking for one myself. There is no need to be shy with counselling professionals. They hear this stuff all the time. Let it all hang out. I will when I find a therapist. I never hold back anything when talking to doctors or counsellors. You have my sympathies. Good luck!
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Thanks guys.

@lynn I neither smoke nor drink. I have told my family doctor and she prescribed me viagra, levitra and cialis and they had absolutely no effect. She also sent me to see a psychosexual counsellor but it didn't work because I was too embarassed to tell him anything about me sexually. But he did tell me to ask my GP for a testosterone check, I told her this and she told me that she would follow it up and get back to me. That was over a fortnight ago and I still haven't heard anything.

Age isn't a problem because I am only 22. I don't think I feel particular anxiety in terms of performance. My anxiety now is in terms of not being able to get an erection.

Something that I should have mentioned that you did instead is that because of my anxiety of social situations I did resort to a lot of porn and I have lost the sensitivity in my penis.
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I should also add, and this sounds ridiculous. But for some reason I have feelings that it is wrong to think of a woman sexually. There was a girl of my age that I knew quite well and I thought she was very attractive but I thought it was wrong to think of her sexually. I had a lot of respect for her because she was a really nice person, but, I couldn't bring myself to think of her sexually. Like I said it sounds utterly ridiculous but I wonder if this is part of my problem.
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Default Feb 25, 2012 at 01:23 PM
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I don't mind discussing legitimate sexual problems here. I think you should go back to the sexual counselor and be honest since this is a medical problem. This may be due to becoming desensitized and excessive masturbation ...but it would need to be excessive, for it to do damage.

Are you getting nocturnal erections - this is normal for men to get nightly erections. So if a man is complaining of ED problems and isn't getting nightly erections while sleeping ...this may indicate physical ED. If the man IS getting nightly erections, then this may indicate an anxiety related ED...which you may have. When a man has anxiety related to erections, the adrenaline hormone can prevent erections. You worry...this triggers the adrenaline and this stops the erections. You can do a simple test called the 'stamp test' if you don't know if you're having these erections while sleeping. If you are having nightly erections, then you need to approach this from a psychological view. Are you on medication for anxiety?? Here's a link:

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I don't mind discussing legitimate sexual problems here. I think you should go back to the sexual counselor and be honest since this is a medical problem. This may be due to becoming desensitized and excessive masturbation ...but it would need to be excessive, for it to do damage.

Are you getting nocturnal erections - this is normal for men to get nightly erections. So if a man is complaining of ED problems and isn't getting nightly erections while sleeping ...this may indicate physical ED. If the man IS getting nightly erections, then this may indicate an anxiety related ED...which you may have. When a man has anxiety related to erections, the adrenaline hormone can prevent erections. You worry...this triggers the adrenaline and this stops the erections. You can do a simple test called the 'stamp test' if you don't know if you're having these erections while sleeping. If you are having nightly erections, then you need to approach this from a psychological view. Are you on medication for anxiety?? Here's a link:

http://www.healthcentral.com/erectil...10566-108.html
Thanks for the link.

I used to be on citalopram but stopped because I was worried about the side effects.

I don't wake up with erections so I am pretty sure that I don't get them during the night.
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I am seeing a counsellor for social anxiety. She is wondering why I am not progressing and speaking to people but I am so embarassed about telling her that I am suffering from erectile dysfunction. I am just wanted to gather the opinions of people on here about whether I should tell her of my problem. I am just so emarassed about it. I have also lost my libido and maybe that would be an easier thing to tell her about at the moment.
I say yes, you would be wise to tell her.

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Default Feb 29, 2012 at 02:55 AM
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Lynn I tried the Stamp test and I didn't get an erection.
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Default Feb 29, 2012 at 03:51 AM
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Hi emre43..
It's a common problem and lots guys suffering from erectile dysfunction.Nowadays many medicine are available on market.Generic Viagra,Kamagra,Kamagra oral Jelly and suhagra are most effective medine for men's sexual health.It treat all physical lovemaking problem,erection problem and impotence problem in men.
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Default Mar 02, 2012 at 02:45 AM
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Hi Emre

I get a sense it could be psycho-sexual. This means you have psychological rather than physical issues that cause erectile dysfunction. You said you felt uncomfortable about having sexual thoughts about your female friend. You may need psychotherapy as your problems may relate to childhood abuse that is still affecting you today through erectile dysfunction. Yes I know a bit heavy but I felt I wanted to add this to the discussion too.
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Default Jul 06, 2012 at 01:20 AM
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Hi,
Erectile dysfunction is common problem nowadays. There are millions of men who are suffering from the problem of impotence.

Impotence is a treatable thus you can easily treat this condition with the help of medication like generic-viagra, geneirc levitra, kamagra, edegra, zenegra, caverta and many more.

But I would like to suggest you that this medication should be taken with the prior prescription of doctor.
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