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Trig Mar 02, 2012 at 07:30 PM
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Hello everyone,

I will warn you, this post is quite honest, and open. Those who are squeamish, beware. Trigger icon added just in case.

So here's the deal. I'm a bi-romantic asexual and therefore have never had sex, nor do I want to. But I DO masturbate, and have since I was 4. The problem? I've only had clitoral orgasms, which are certainly wonderful. But I have heard so much about how wonderful g-spot orgasms are, and I'm interested.

I suppose my main question would be: can I, as a virgin, have a g-spot orgasm? And then my next question would be: if so, HOW?

I will admit, the inside of my vagina is a scary place to me. I've never used a tampon. I have stuck a finger up there before, to see how it felt...didn't care for it. And it was tight. Somehow, I doubt 2 of my fingers would fit well in there. And just the thought of trying scares me.

Ladies and gentlemen, can you help this virgin find her g-spot?
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Default Mar 02, 2012 at 08:03 PM
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there is no exact location for the g-spot, and you would need more than just your finger to find it.

I've been masturbating with a vibrator and a vibrating dildo for a couple years now and i have yet to find the g-spot. In fact, I have yet to orgasm from the "inside", just with clitoral triggers.
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Default Mar 02, 2012 at 08:05 PM
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You would either need to go to a sex shop or go online and by a g-spot vibrator. I'm happy with my toys so I'm not gonna go out and buy one, but if you really want to hit that g-spot, you'll need to go out and get the proper tools.
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Default Mar 03, 2012 at 02:09 AM
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Hi melissa.recovering,

Ive found an article which you may find useful (the link is featured at the bottom of this response) - most of it contains personal input and can therefore be conflicting in places, but when it comes to areas of the body no two people are entirely the same. Im hoping it might give you a fairly reasonable introduction to the whole G-Spot topic. There is of course conflict over what its actual purpose is along with debate as to whether it even exists, but i encourage you to read as much as you can and take plenty of time to explore and hopefully experience the many different sensations our bodies can give us.

I personally do believe in the G-Spot and that i have experienced what is generally considered to be a G-Spot orgasm. This for me, is usally achieved either dexterously (usually with my index and middle finger) or through the use of a vibrator with a curved tip. Not to plug rampant rabbits but 'the small shaking one' (its actual name!) is what i normally use - its perfect for those who are new to toys and want to experiment with more internal sensations (if you like i can pm a link to it). I would also like to point out that locating my G-Spot is much easier after having already climaxed so this is something you may want to bear in mind and try for yourself. In terms of the sensation, i believe this again will vary from person to person but i felt entirely overcome by it - i felt hold and cold, tingly and numb all at once. Its nothing like you've ever experienced before. I wish you all the best in discovering new heights of pleasure!

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Where_is_the_G-spot

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Default Mar 03, 2012 at 03:34 AM
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can anyone be born without one? O_O
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Default Mar 03, 2012 at 12:51 PM
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Probably, ColourBars... but I think a lot of people have so much trouble finding it that it's hard to say.

I have heard the theory that a woman's G-spot is really a nerve or something connected to the clitoris anyway, just hitting it internally rather than externally. I don't know if that's true. If it is, it might be that differences between women's anatomy might mean that this nerve is more accessable to some women than to others.

Bear in mind though Melissa... it's possible that this whole G-Spot idea is intensified by the urges and result of sexual attraction, so non-asexual women might have a better chance of locating or intensifying that stimulation. As for tightness etc... probably same again that non-asexual women might be more able to relax and lubricate as a result of that mental process as well. As I understand it, a woman is tight as a virgin and sex is uncomfortable the first few times (I guess that goes for anything you care to shove up there) until her body starts to adjust and get used to it, so probably with some practice and care you could change things.
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Default Mar 03, 2012 at 02:11 PM
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It seems like it might be more difficult to find on yourself, or at least more uncomfortable on your wrist. You will be more likely to find it by curling your finger up and outward while it is inside. The descriptions I have read in books say that the texture of the g spot is unique and more spongy than the surrounding area, and it does feel different - but not like a sponge, really.
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Default Mar 03, 2012 at 04:29 PM
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Read something with Romance, or watch a kissing session

I read Yaoi, and it gets me going easily.

Or imagine something.
The G-spot should be somewhere towards the middle, it's the most sensitive place.
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Default Mar 05, 2012 at 02:39 AM
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Well, my experience with them is limited to readings (Wikipedia: Quelling my curiosity since '93), but I can offer what I know.

Firstly, your virginity isn't going to be connected to your g-spot. As far as I am aware of, the only physical aspect virginity affects is the hymen and the "tightness" you mentioned. Without any sort of penetrative sex or tampon use, you can expect that. Nothing at all out of the ordinary.

They do make toys that are designed to stimulate the g-spot, though I know virtually nothing about them. I do fear though that if you dislike the feeling of anything penetrative, this might not be enjoyable for you.

Granted, this is my perspective as a guy of 18, so I am far from experienced or knowledgeable on the subject. I am just offering what I know.

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Default Mar 05, 2012 at 11:51 AM
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Hmm I wonder if the G-spot has been over-rated? I've certainly never found mine, not knowingly anyway. I enjoy regular masturbation as well as having had a healthy sex life in the past and have really good orgasms both ways. At a risk of being too detailed lol, I occasionally experience O's purely around the clit area (that is, higher up) but mainly have ones that cause spasms from inside. I call the latter vaginal orgasms and maybe this are what you'd call a G-spot orgasm? If so, I suggest experimenting with what feels good to you. Personally I can't get on with sex toys but maybe that's just me. They only give me clit O's at best and not even particularly memorable ones. At a risk of too much info, I don't go 'inside' to get vaginal O's. I've just learnt what works for me to generate them. If you need more info feel free to pm me. Good luck!
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I believe I read recently on-line that scientist says there is no such thing. It's been a few months since I read about it...but thought I would throw it out there for your
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Found article http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmi...61_g-spot.html
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It IS true that not everyone has a g spot. It's an internal extention of the clitoral tissue that wraps around the urethra, full of a ridiculous amount of nerve endings & some glands that have been known to secrete fluids similar to the "filler" in male ejaculate. But in a great deal of women, their clitoris doesn't grow internally to the extent that some others do. Essentially, the only way to stimulate it is from the inside. You can either purchase a vibrator specifically to reach the mythic "spot" or you can stimulate it manually to figure out if it's there or not. Palm facing up, you reach a finger in there & once it's in, you curve the finger & wiggle it in a (what they call) "come hither" motion. If you feel like you have to urinate, don't be surprised. But if you try to urinate & nothing happens: CONGRATULATIONS! You indeed have a g spot &, with practice, will be able to have mind-numbing orgasms that nicely change up your normal routine. If not? No harm done! As long as you're enjoying yourself, the semantics don't matter.

Sorry if that was overly descriptive or if you found your answer elsewhere already. I found mine relatively early, even before I read anything on it! Hahah It was really, really embarassing to get intimate with anyone who I hadn't "explained myself" to or who didn't know about it beforehand. So I had to do a bit of investigative reading. Most people don't understand the possible "explosive" element of the process & it occurs every time I get penetrated, without fail, which leaves a lot of people raising eyebrows. :P
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I shouldn't have read this. Is there a coping with hypersexuality thread someone can direct me to? lmfao
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