GSA (Genetic Sexual Attraction)

I saw something about this on Dr. Drew's HLN show last week and realized that I deal with some of the same issues. Mine doesn't have anything to do with adoption and a reunion years later whici is what happens in most cases of this. For me I get the thoughts about my uncle when he comes to visit which isn't very often since we are in the northwest and he is in the southeast. I love to just lay my head on his stomach and have his arm wrapped around me. I've never acted on the thoughts or even told anybody (not even my best friend that I tell just about everything to) except for here in an anonymous forum but I have thought about wanting to have sex with him. When it has to do with adoption they talk about it being a form of delayed bonding and after puberty the brain starts to confuse that desire of bonding for sexual ones. I was only a few weeks old when he first saw me. I have seen pictures of him feeding me my bottle and laying next to me in his bed while I took a nap. He visited us again when I was a little over a year but the first time I can say I have any memory of it was high school. I almost wonder if my uncle and I bonded more than normal over those few short weeks when I was a baby since I was so young and he was feeding me. Anyway, has anybody else here experienced feelings like this toward a relative.? How did you deal with it? I am really confused and don't know how to process these emotions. At least we don't see each other often but even the thoughts are causing a lot of shame because I know you shouldn't be feeling this way toward a relative.

Thoughts should not cause shame; you are doing nothing shameful or wrong in fantasizing. If I were you, I would process the emotions by fantasy, pleasure myself, and not worry. You might also consider talking to a therapist--not to clear up the attraction but to clear up the guilt. We don't hurt anyone or anything within our minds; you are free to fantasize. Be gentle with yourself.
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I'm sure this is probably fairly common. I've heard a lot of times about people being attracted to first cousins and an uncle isn't really that far removed, it's just a different dynamic of relationship. Most of the shame comes from society. I'm not saying that people should have relations with family, but from an animal point of view it probably isn't that unnatural to think about it sometimes.

Thanks guys. I don't see myself fantasizing about him while I pleasure myself but you have both helped with the shame. Shipping, you're right thoughts are a lot different than actually doing something and Pandoren it helps being reminded that I'm not the only one who has ever had thoughts like this and that means even though it's not normal I'm not as crazy as I thought.

my half brother and i were raised separately and told he was my uncle not my brother cuz our grandma adopted him. our relationship became extremely inappropriate when he was 14 and i was 8. we found out 3 years later that we were siblings. he went to prison shortly thereafter on unrelated charges for almost 20 years. now he is out and says he is in love with me, that he is addicted to me, that the happiest he has ever been was the incident in the past. i know he is still shaky from being in prison for so long and still adjusting to the outside world and i dont want to make anything more difficult on him. i am in a relationship, one i have been in for over 10 years and i hope to marry my boyfriend someday but even if i were single i would not be interested in my brother. thats not to say i didnt have confusing feelings of my own at some point but he is my brother. i want to help him but he creeps me out sometimes, and says things that i dont know how to respond to. what should i do? what can i do?