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coldwutlulz · Jun 15, 2012 at 07:07 PM

So, at what age did any of you people find out about your sexual/romantic orientation and gender identity. althogh i have known since middle school, was considering it, that i am gray-asexual, it wasnt until last year that i identify as that. I am 17 now. I also figured in midlle school that i wasnt really a male or female. i am neutrois, happy that i found that lable. transmasculine neutrois to be exact. I do occasionaly bind. i have yet to tell my parents about this. Have any of you told your parents or loved ones about this? how did they react?

Pandoren · Jun 15, 2012 at 07:46 PM

I was 13 when I first started questioning my sexuality but ended up settling on the one that seemed to fit the best (considering at the time I thought you were homo, hetero or bi, only three options). I didn't find out about asexuality until I was 20 or so and now identify properly. Funnily enough to your post, I'm agender.

I came out to my mother as gay when I was around 16 or 17, which went badly. I did come out to my brother as asexual later on, which I don't think he understood but he did accept, but after my first disasterous coming out to my mother I didn't bother doing it twice.

yakult456 · Jul 22, 2012 at 06:27 AM

I was around 14 or 13 when I started questioning my sexuality because it was then when I had friends with various sexuality. Didn't dare to tell my parents, of course. I'm 1000% sure they'll beat the crap out of me. They found out, anyway. My mom went crazy. She really did. I got slapped lots of times and she banged my head on the wall. No blood or anything. Was just dizzy with lots of tears. Thanks to my talkative sister.

I realized I was straight when I started to feel gross in being intimate with other girls and when my fantasies were all guys. Anyway, I guess it's just a phase in a teenager's life. Pretty much normal, I suppose. It's like a turning point. You just sort of realize which direction you're headed to. So... In coming out, there are various reactions to it. Open-minded people wouldn't be bothered. Then again, some people are very conventional.

Typo · Jul 22, 2012 at 11:14 AM

Highschool was when I really realized I was bisexual, teenage years are a time of exploration, but I ended up realizing that I am just as emotionally and sexually attracted to women as I am men. I am not really out to my family, other than my younger sister, and most of my friend's know.

I gender identfy as female, and my sex is feamale.

LiteraryLark · Jul 22, 2012 at 11:56 AM

I was in middle school when I started questioning. Throughout the four years of high school I went back and forth between straight, bi, lesbian, and even had a transgender phase. I decided on bisexual my junior year, this year I realized I'm not only bisexual but also pansexual. I am also trying to figure out my sexuality aka fetishes and BDSM. There is a difference, I am learning, between orientation and sexuality.

Jul 27, 2012 at 03:30 PM

When I was as young as 8, I found other girls in my classroom attractive & would often sit on the bus, daydreaming of myself in a boy's body. And even at 6 & 7 years old, I would love playing games like cop/criminal cowboys/indians where I would get tied up by my playmates. It wasn't until much later (17 or so) that I would identify officially as kinky, pansexual & genderqueer. Genderqueer just seems most appropriate for me... Unfortunately, my body is not incredibly boyish & no amount of binding makes an appreciable difference. But most of my inner programming feels more male than female. Not enough to be transgendered because I know I'd still crossdress even if I did go through that entire process. Hahahah

Jul 30, 2012 at 11:26 AM

I knew at around the age of 12-13 that i was attracted to both sexes but i was in denial for some time - the fact that i mostly had relationships with men whilst also feeling sexually attracted to women both confused and frightened me. Eventually i grew to accept who i was and i suppose sexuality is more fluid then we're made to believe anyway - to my mind however if i love someone, if im happy being with them then genitalia isn't important. Best of luck coming out.

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Typo Elder Member Since Feb 2008 Location: In a Cloud Posts: 5,112 16 75 hugs given	Jul 22, 2012 at 11:14 AM #4 Highschool was when I really realized I was bisexual, teenage years are a time of exploration, but I ended up realizing that I am just as emotionally and sexually attracted to women as I am men. I am not really out to my family, other than my younger sister, and most of my friend's know. I gender identfy as female, and my sex is feamale.
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