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Default Jun 22, 2012 at 10:41 PM
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Hi I am having an issue with my man and masturbation. When is too much too much? The fact that he does it bothers me but he pictures other hotter women with big boobs and he is 44!!
What i am really concerned about is he is a tile setter. So he goes into peoples homes and tiles there bathrooms and stuff. He has on several occasions masturbated in the houses he is working in. Do i have the right to be angry and wonder if something is wrong? what about the age issue the fact that he pictures young girls make a difference?

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Default Jun 23, 2012 at 04:27 AM
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I would say "too much" is when it interferes with your daily life. The vibe I'm getting is that he probably doesn't think it is too much, but I do agree it's a bit out of line to go doing it in other people's houses. This isn't necessarily too high a libido and he has to do it, it might just be lack of willpower and he's thinking "what the hell, no one is going to notice if I do it now."

As for the fantasy... If he was always inclined to picture women with big boobs during activities, I shouldn't think the fact that he's 44 will change that. It's a part of his Man Thing. That'll likely be something he hangs on to, age regardless. How young is young, anyway? If we are talking creepy, then I can see how you'd be concerned but unless you think he's actually a threat to young ladies I guess you could just ask him to keep that to himself. If you are talking of consent age and above then it might just be that that's where his brain left a mental age marker and even though his body has got older, that's still the place where he pictures his ladies.
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Default Jun 23, 2012 at 11:55 AM
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thank you Pandoren. I appreciate the advice!!!!

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Default Jun 23, 2012 at 08:25 PM
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I agree fully with Pandoren. I think him pleasuring himself in other people's houses is a little out of line...I personally wouldn't allow him to continue working in my home if I were to catch him doing that, and I would bring it to his superiors. He's running a risk there, I think.

How young are the girls? I don't think that's unusual unless their age of consent is questionable. Regardless, if his use of that bothers you, I do think you have a right as his partner to let him know it bothers you.

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Default Jun 28, 2012 at 09:47 AM
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I generally think of 44 as young age, FWIW.
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