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Default Dec 09, 2012 at 02:51 AM
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Hey, I'm Daniel.

I've had Gender Identity Disorder for a real long time, ever since I was little. I was born a genetic female but my parents never really raised me as a 'boy' or 'girl'. They didn't make me wear dresses or skirts all the time. If I wanted to wear pants, they let me. My room was painted green and I was never bought just pink toys or blue toys. I had barbie dolls and matchbox cars. I loved playing soccer and sometimes played dress-up with my Mother by raiding her closet for dresses and stealing her make-up.

I guess things got a little more confusing when I entered high-school. I found myself uncomfortable around girls cause they'd talk about nothing by fashion and make-up, whereas I felt more like myself hanging with my the boy, playing soccer and stuff. But the girls would tease me for wearing shorts and being a wh*re cause I liked the boys more, and the boys would laugh when I wore make-up or tried to play football in the school skirt.

Like anyone, I didn't want to be teased or laughed at, so I stuck with having lots of female friends, wearing pretty clothes, growing my hair long and getting into make-up and all those stereotypical girly things. Towards the end of high school I found out about the whole 'transgender' thing, so I began identifying as a trans-male. I've only ever came out to a few close friends, and they've all been okay with it. A little confused, yeah, but they accepted me.

I've only just recently moved back in with my Dad and step-mum and I'm beginning to get really frustrated and stressed cause they don't know I'm transgender. I've read things about how to come out but I can't quite bring myself to tell my Dad. But it's so hard pretending to be someone I'm not, so I'm hoping to maybe get some advice on coming out? and maybe how to go about continuing my transition to a male?

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Default Dec 10, 2012 at 10:28 PM
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I feel for you. I hate you are so torn. It is not for me to say you should tell your dad, I can't imagine how hard this must be for you. Keep talking to us here at PC.

I am female and never wore dresses. I played w/ tractors as a kid. I worked on a horse farm cleaning stalls w/ guys. I picked up hey in the hey field w/ all guys. I took 5 years of agricultural science and mechanics in high school. I love to cut fire wood and do guy stuff. But I am attracted to men. I am married to a man and have children. I am definately female, tomboy but female. My H loves me cowboy boots and all. He doesn't like my horses but he expects me to handle hay and unload feed just like any man cause if a man can do it I can do it. I like what guys would usually like but I am all female. So be sure you are trans before you do or say to much to your folks. How certin are you. If you are absolutely certin that is great. Uncertinity is a bad place to be no matter what the subject.
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Default Dec 11, 2012 at 02:53 AM
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I agree with Big Mama. But if you decide you want to come out to your parents, you should be prepared for any reaction you think they'll have. Tell them you know it's hard to accept, but you're giving them your honest feelings on the matter. If you're more comfortable, you might consider having a friend with you when you tell them, especially if that friend gets along well with your parents. I'm sorry, I know this is so hard for you, but as Big Mama said, there are a lot of people here at PC who will listen and, when we think we can, give advice.

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Default Dec 11, 2012 at 07:09 PM
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I too was and am very much a tomboy. but all woman on the inside. I never have had what I call really close female friends, only a handful as I too was much more comfy around the guys. maybe because all my cousins were boys. I still don't wear the makeup too much. maybe once a year. Please think long and hard before you come out as being transgendered. Maybe you are just like a few of us here ...tomboys....you didn't say you felt like a man inside. that is the key right there hon.

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Default Dec 11, 2012 at 08:16 PM
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I agree with others - think more before you make big decisions. I am 42 and only now and not even for sure starting (possibly!) to use make-up. I have never been interested in stereotypical girlie topics. Yes, I clearly identify as a woman.
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Default Dec 13, 2012 at 05:00 PM
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I pretty much grew up the same way, and believe that a part of me is male. I dress in baggy clothes (out of comfort) and I believe some don't view me as straight. If I didn't have a boyfriend I'm pretty sure I would be classed as a "butch lesbian". (I've been told this before)

For me it comes down to knowing that I am attracted to males and that I feel comfortable and not distraught in my body. I can be as 'male-ish' as I want because I'm not bothered by other peoples perception of me. I know I don't completely fit the 'binary stereotypes' but it hasn't stopped me from loving myself and my body.

If you're experiencing discomfort because of the gender you were given, then I'd come out. If you have had problems accepting your body, I would come out. There are therapies that you can do to start changing/altering the way you look so you feel more comfortable in your skin so you look like the person you imagine yourself to be.

HOWEVER! If you are fine with your body but dislike the stereotypes of what defines a male/female then tell the world to shove off and do what you want. There is nothing wrong with not being totally male/female. It's perfectly normal to have aspects in your life that would fit the other gender role more closely.

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