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SadSamuel
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Member Since: Dec 2012
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I'm 33 years old and a compulsively masturbating virgin who has never been in a relationship. While i look at women and find them attractive, i have always been almost scared of doing anything sexual with them. That would be fine but i can't seem to be ok with the idea of being with a man as a man. Quite frankly its just gross to me, yet its what i want to do most of the time.
I used to think about getting a sex change when i was a young kid, but I realized it would just make things worse. I sometimes think what it would be like to be a woman sexually, and i like the idea. I don't feel like a girl, but sometimes i feel like i have a woman's sexuality. I'm not hung up on what exactly to call myself, after all there is nothing more then "therapy" to help you at best cope with the person you are. I guess what I would like to know, is how do i find a way to be ok with being alone forever? I have been my whole life, but lately its all i think about. It's not so slowly driving me crazy. My feeling is that i simply don't get the idea of sex, that i'm so sexual perverted that i can never be happy. That is something i'm trying to cope with as best i can, but i need to be able to have it off my mind. Any suggestions? |
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I can't really help with this, but you might be experiencing "autogynephilia". It basically means experiencing sexual pleasure from imagining yourself as or feeling female in sexual situations. It seems from a quick internet search that the opposite ("autoandrophilia" ie women imagining themselves as male in sexual situations) is somehow more socially acceptable but maybe that was just a few bad sites popping up.
In any case, if there is a label, then it means you aren't alone. If you aren't alone, then it might be possible to find people like you to help you understand, or console you or advise you... |
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People do live alone, and some seem to prefer it.
If that's your choice, I don't think anyone will stop you. Therapy might help you to find out who you are. Then the label wouldn't matter. __________________ Mr Ambassador, alias Ancient Plax, alias Captain Therapy, alias Big Poppa, alias Secret Spy, etc. Add that to your tattoo, Baby! |
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