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Old 12-23-2012, 01:12 PM #11
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I wish i had that take it or leave it attitude, but my drive is through the roof!
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A 20 second hug can increase oxytocin levels. This is a good thing. Touch goes a long way to sustaining a relationship. Sex has a lot of benefits that go beyond regular touch, but it is touch which is vital. If there is no touching at all, get a cat or dog or something. People tend to feel more free when touching animals and small children, and it is probably better not to have children around if there is no touch between the adults.
I cannot agree more! I use my computer on my tummy and one or more of my three cats like to sit on my butt/back/legs while I do, providing me with lots of warm touch. They also sleep with me at night. It is Christmas time and I have not used the heater in my apartment because the heat coming from the cats at night is sufficient for me (I am also sturdy and physicially resilient and rarely get cold, so that helps). I feel that part of the reason I do so well mentally is the ample touch the cats provide (if I use the computer for many hours at a stretch, I get touch from cats for that long because I am warmer than the floor and cats would always, always prefer to stay on a warm surface).

Although I currently am not interested in sex for reasons that are still unknown (possibly from Topamax which I just discontinued and we will see what it will yield), I still enjoy the touch part of sex, as well as kissing, so I think that the basic benefit of sex - touch - as Inedible has said - can be enjoyed even if you do not have the drive and/or orgasms. Of course, in order to enjoy the touch part of sex you have to either not have gone through severe SA/rape, or have recovered from them fully. I only went through low grade sexual molestation when I was a teen and although I ended up wounded and confused, it was not to a dramatic degree so I can still enjoy sex.
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To me, sex is incredibly important. I am currently in a relationship that has been sexless for a long time, and it's positively terrible.
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I am thinking that sex is unimportant for some people because you do not need that much sex to reproduce and perpetuate the species. With water and to a lesser extent, food, you either have it orr die.
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It depends on the person and the relationship. To me a certain amount of sex is important in a relationship but it's not a "deal breaker" if it's not there.

What I think is VERY important in a relationship is being able to talk about sex with your partner, and be willing to make sure that both of your needs are being met at least on some level.
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It also could be that the species survives in perpetuity with reproduction of some but not all humans, hence not everyone is endowed with a significant sex drive. Plus, nature has introduced a lot of excess, a lot of extra padding - one ejaculation contains far more sperm than necessary for reproduction, so maybe on the other end of it there are people with low or no drive, because on the total there are more than enough opportunities for reproduction.
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