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Confused Jan 02, 2013 at 11:52 AM
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im an 18 year old male and I only had sex once and after that I found myself wanting it less and less.is this normal?
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Default Jan 02, 2013 at 01:02 PM
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There's no normal when it comes to sex.
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There's no normal when it comes to sex.
that kinda helps hahahahahahah
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Default Jan 02, 2013 at 03:41 PM
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You didn't leave enough info to give a decent answer...
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You didn't leave enough info to give a decent answer...
okay so I had sex once with this girl I just met.we were hanging out at her place and one thing led to another and she took my virginity and after that I don't want sex,i still masturbate but I don't want sex, I want a relationship where the girl loves me and I love her. and if sex happens so be it. im not looking for it and im not after it
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Default Jan 02, 2013 at 11:47 PM
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Well, without getting into particulars, would it be fair to say that your first time with that one girl wasn't with love, but just sex? Your latter part of the post makes it sound that way. It could be that you need to have the emotional satisfaction present before sexual attraction is present. I'm largely the same way, minus the "don't want sex" part.

Anyway, barring the first part, it sounds to me by and large that you could simply have a low sex drive, which isn't a bad thing per se. Just who you happen to be.

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Default Jan 03, 2013 at 12:20 AM
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Why couldn't I marry you. A man with a low sex drive would be my dream come true. A man looking for love and not just a romp in the sack.

I do understand what you are saying. It is a good thing. Look at it this way. Virginity is no longer an issue. You are waiting for an emotional connection and love. There is nothing wrong w/ that.
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Well, without getting into particulars, would it be fair to say that your first time with that one girl wasn't with love, but just sex? Your latter part of the post makes it sound that way. It could be that you need to have the emotional satisfaction present before sexual attraction is present. I'm largely the same way, minus the "don't want sex" part.

Anyway, barring the first part, it sounds to me by and large that you could simply have a low sex drive, which isn't a bad thing per se. Just who you happen to be.
the way o started looking at it is that im a "love maker" I cant go around sleeping with any girl, it just doesn't do it for me. I have to be with someone I care and have love for. but not rush into it
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Default Jan 03, 2013 at 05:13 PM
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My H was the same way. The girl he dated before me was my best friend. She was kinda a floozie. She was quite easy if you know what I mean. She hit on my H repeatedly. He was just not into sex w/ just who ever. He broke it off w/ her w/in 2 weeks. It was a very short lived relationship.

It is nice to know such guys still exist. Stay that way, don't let the world change you.
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My H was the same way. The girl he dated before me was my best friend. She was kinda a floozie. She was quite easy if you know what I mean. She hit on my H repeatedly. He was just not into sex w/ just who ever. He broke it off w/ her w/in 2 weeks. It was a very short lived relationship.

It is nice to know such guys still exist. Stay that way, don't let the world change you.
I don't plan on changing for anyone and thank you that made me feel really good about myself
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Default Jan 03, 2013 at 06:44 PM
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F.f. The way you are is a good thing and a compliment to any girl you might date in future. Your sex drive may awaken when in a commited relationship with someone you care about. When you find a true connection you will enjoy your lovemaking, as opposed to 'getting laid'. Nothing wrong in that, absolutely nothing. In fact it's a credit to you, and your upbringing.
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F.f. The way you are is a good thing and a compliment to any girl you might date in future. Your sex drive may awaken when in a commited relationship with someone you care about. When you find a true connection you will enjoy your lovemaking, as opposed to 'getting laid'. Nothing wrong in that, absolutely nothing. In fact it's a credit to you, and your upbringing.
well thank you! my brother is complete different from me though he enjoys sex with random people and constantly having sex
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FF both of my H's brothers are like your brother. One has 5 children that he claims and supports from 3 relationships two which were marriages. His other brother slept w/ all his other brothers ex's. He married 2 different wemen and has 2 children one from ea marriage. My family and my H's family togehter would make a great Jerry Springer Episode. Hopefully your brother is not that bad. My H tells me all the time "I have no thing positive in terms of family to bring to the table" I tell him he does. We have 2 teenage boys my H's brothers are a prime example of what drugs, alcohol, and sex can do for ya. So your so much better off my friend. Take your time.
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FF both of my H's brothers are like your brother. One has 5 children that he claims and supports from 3 relationships two which were marriages. His other brother slept w/ all his other brothers ex's. He married 2 different wemen and has 2 children one from ea marriage. My family and my H's family togehter would make a great Jerry Springer Episode. Hopefully your brother is not that bad. My H tells me all the time "I have no thing positive in terms of family to bring to the table" I tell him he does. We have 2 teenage boys my H's brothers are a prime example of what drugs, alcohol, and sex can do for ya. So your so much better off my friend. Take your time.
im not rushing into it again.it was a mistake but I don't regret it, I don't regret anything
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Default Jan 05, 2013 at 03:13 PM
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The first guy I was with was a short lived relationship after that one night. But the events that led up to that could not have been more perfect. It is not something I regret to this day. This man is not my H. But after being married 18 years to my H and as much as I love him, that one night will be part of me forever and regret is not any part of that memory.

I'm glad you don't regret it. Love, learn and live, and some day love again.
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The first guy I was with was a short lived relationship after that one night. But the events that led up to that could not have been more perfect. It is not something I regret to this day. This man is not my H. But after being married 18 years to my H and as much as I love him, that one night will be part of me forever and regret is not any part of that memory.

I'm glad you don't regret it. Love, learn and live, and some day love again.
im actually happy im a "lovemaker" it makes things special and im happy I don't want to rush things. I was hanging out with this girl as friends and I was talking to this girl I like and she made me promise her that I would not have sex with that girl and to this day I kept that promise, I havnt had sex since I promised her that I wouldn't. I wonder if that has to do with anything
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im actually happy im a "lovemaker" it makes things special and im happy I don't want to rush things. I was hanging out with this girl as friends and I was talking to this girl I like and she made me promise her that I would not have sex with that girl and to this day I kept that promise, I havnt had sex since I promised her that I wouldn't. I wonder if that has to do with anything
I left out the part were the girl I was hanging out with wanted to have sex with me
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Your promise may have something to do w/ it, that sounds very noble.
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Your promise may have something to do w/ it, that sounds very noble.
im not one to break a promise
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Good a sign of good character.
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