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Old 01-02-2013, 10:52 AM #1
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Confused is it normal?

im an 18 year old male and I only had sex once and after that I found myself wanting it less and less.is this normal?
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There's no normal when it comes to sex.
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There's no normal when it comes to sex.
that kinda helps hahahahahahah
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You didn't leave enough info to give a decent answer...
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You didn't leave enough info to give a decent answer...
okay so I had sex once with this girl I just met.we were hanging out at her place and one thing led to another and she took my virginity and after that I don't want sex,i still masturbate but I don't want sex, I want a relationship where the girl loves me and I love her. and if sex happens so be it. im not looking for it and im not after it
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Well, without getting into particulars, would it be fair to say that your first time with that one girl wasn't with love, but just sex? Your latter part of the post makes it sound that way. It could be that you need to have the emotional satisfaction present before sexual attraction is present. I'm largely the same way, minus the "don't want sex" part.

Anyway, barring the first part, it sounds to me by and large that you could simply have a low sex drive, which isn't a bad thing per se. Just who you happen to be.
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Why couldn't I marry you. A man with a low sex drive would be my dream come true. A man looking for love and not just a romp in the sack.

I do understand what you are saying. It is a good thing. Look at it this way. Virginity is no longer an issue. You are waiting for an emotional connection and love. There is nothing wrong w/ that.
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Well, without getting into particulars, would it be fair to say that your first time with that one girl wasn't with love, but just sex? Your latter part of the post makes it sound that way. It could be that you need to have the emotional satisfaction present before sexual attraction is present. I'm largely the same way, minus the "don't want sex" part.

Anyway, barring the first part, it sounds to me by and large that you could simply have a low sex drive, which isn't a bad thing per se. Just who you happen to be.
the way o started looking at it is that im a "love maker" I cant go around sleeping with any girl, it just doesn't do it for me. I have to be with someone I care and have love for. but not rush into it
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My H was the same way. The girl he dated before me was my best friend. She was kinda a floozie. She was quite easy if you know what I mean. She hit on my H repeatedly. He was just not into sex w/ just who ever. He broke it off w/ her w/in 2 weeks. It was a very short lived relationship.

It is nice to know such guys still exist. Stay that way, don't let the world change you.
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My H was the same way. The girl he dated before me was my best friend. She was kinda a floozie. She was quite easy if you know what I mean. She hit on my H repeatedly. He was just not into sex w/ just who ever. He broke it off w/ her w/in 2 weeks. It was a very short lived relationship.

It is nice to know such guys still exist. Stay that way, don't let the world change you.
I don't plan on changing for anyone and thank you that made me feel really good about myself
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