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Old 01-15-2013, 04:28 PM #11
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im definitely a gender nonconformist but im not homosexual or transgender or anything. i like being female. i just dont dress like that and my hair is short. and my interests are more male oriented some of them.
I do not get it when females on this board say they dress as males. I understand males dressing as females but not vice versa. Do not we all dress like males often? I mean, jeans+tee can be called unisex but originally was male. Most women do not wear skirts or dresses on a regular basis around here. I would not say though that they dress like males. It is just that the contemporary professional dress code does not make a distinction between unisex and female, blending it.
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i didnt say i dress as male. but what i did mean to say is that i dont dress feminine. sometimes i do buy male clothing but i dont dress in drag or what i think your saying. like totally male. i dont do that. i just wear jeans and crewneck tees and sometimes male jackets. i mean you know what im saying?
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I hate to disagree, but the right sort of abusive partner (abusive in certain ways) is something that I find very desirable, impossible to find but still VERY desirable.
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I don't think there's anything wrong with being passive. It's just that a lot of women are passive themselves or at least become that way when they get close to a guy and they may resent that they do this. And when they see these "negative" behaviours in men it puts them far over the edge of resentment. They may automatically not like you despite knowing nothing about you. However, everyone with a weakness is prone to this - man or woman. When we see something in ourselves as a weakness, whether we have gotten rid of it or not, if we haven't "forgiven" ourselves for it then it can hard to "forgive" anyone else for it if that makes any sense.

Some may even try to make fun of you for it. It is quite the double standard though. It would be quite arrogant and rude for one to think they are better than someone else because they were smarter or more knowledgeable. But for some reason it is socially acceptable to make fun of someone if they are not holding up to so-called gender roles as well as others. But that's another can of worms...

Anyway all women aren't like that and many are very accepting of different kinds of people - not just what they're used to...

But you need to stand up for yourself when the time comes no matter who you are.
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i didnt say i dress as male. but what i did mean to say is that i dont dress feminine. sometimes i do buy male clothing but i dont dress in drag or what i think your saying. like totally male. i dont do that. i just wear jeans and crewneck tees and sometimes male jackets. i mean you know what im saying?
Yes, I do. You shun all expressions of femininity.
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