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Old 01-11-2013, 02:36 PM #1
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I really dont want to change, now will I. I am a gender nonconformist in a sense that i like some girl's things like hello kitty and sanrio in general. I also like all adorable and kawaii things and i am very sensitive. i know the majority of woman want a "man", but i wonder if there are exceptions, or if a more dominant woman would be good for me. i am not homosexual, but just nonconformist when it comes to gender behaviour. A woman who is accepting of those characteristics i mentioned and others would be good enough, and forget about models... they are sexy and they turn me on, but in terms of serious relationship, i want someone who accepts me.
P.D. i also tend to grab my hair and fix it a lot so it looks good.
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Everyone is different. I'm sure there is someone out there for you.
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I agree everyone is different. For example, I completely accept it and think its attractive sort of, but my best friend hates it..... so I would like you, she wouldn't.
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how is it attractive for you, for example? and thanks. i will be more patient in waiing for the person that is for me
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I don't know lol it just is.... I like that stuff too... I am "emo" so I think its super attractive.....
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You know that is ok. Women are drawn to all types of men. I would love to find a more passive man, though I am not so good at being dominate. There are several guys who I have been friends w/ that I would have loved to be more than friends w/ just because of the sensitivity fact. I have a fear of agressive men, I am sure I am not the only woman on the planet w/ that issue. There are women who are quite comfortable in a head of the household roll, my sister in law for example.
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I am also sensitive, and i tend to take things to heart and think about them and that can cause me problems if i over do it. but i Know its also necessary to express your feelings to people.
The macho philosophy of keeping your feeligs to yourself is self-destructive, because you have to talk about your issues to someone, be it friends, family, etc. It is very unfortunate that this western society frowns upon men who express their feelings, because i read on a paper that men died earlier than women because women had more social support with their issues, whereas men wanted to keep them to themselves amd well, that creates a vicious cycle. I dont know who's fault is that amd i tend to think it's the males who refuse to break
the cycle. I am out of that cycle, because i know that seeking the help of others is important to emotional well-being. As long as one doesnt turn into what people call an "emotional *****", who is someone who opens just with any person one sees on the street.
And the whole hello kitty kawaii thing is just something i like, and i have been intimidated before, so i would abandon those things, but i just told them to go and **** themselves. sorry for the badwords, but thats exactly what i think.
I just wish people could be themselves and stand up against intimidating people who dont approve of their behaviour.
When i visit the Wrong Planet forum and i read about how aspies NOTICE the manipulations that exist in society, i.e. intimidations, reminders of social norms, etc. i start to wish that i was aspie, (i have mild ADD).
another thing is that when i see a cute stuffed animal i feel like hugging it and cuddling to it, they are just so cute in my opinion, and no amount of bullying will change that.
I just would like someone who understands that feminine side of me, so i can feel more at home. Just someone for me :/ but tbh, if i am mentioning what i like in physical appearance, i like emoish or punkish girls who look dominant and more talktive than me, and more active. i also like short hair in girls, and i find some active girls or athletic ones hot. (note: i dont want an abusive partner).
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No no one wants an abusive partner.

I have 2 boys. I raised them to talk about there feelings, hug, cry, what ever. We are all human. Not just girls cry and have feelings. The world would be a better and safer place if men could/would speak there feelings.

My 15 yr old loves his stuffed animals. His dad fusses at him and makes him feel bad about it. But I tell him, go for it. If that helps you and makes you feel safe or happy then who cares what your dad thinks.
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It is interesting how people put a lot of stigma on stuffed animals, when they are just harmless toys, and sometimes rather amusing how people get so upset and indignant when they see a grown up with a stuffed animal, when, again, its just a very cute and adorable toy. I mean, why would someone feel offended or indignant about someone else's liking for such cute and adorable cuddly and stitched toys?
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im definitely a gender nonconformist but im not homosexual or transgender or anything. i like being female. i just dont dress like that and my hair is short. and my interests are more male oriented some of them.
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