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Default Feb 20, 2013 at 09:19 PM
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Today at dinner my dad was complaining about this gay man who is fixing the door at his office. And he was doing this stupid gay voice. I wanted to jump over the table to punch him....

I wanted to tell him to shut up because some of my best friends are gay. And that I am Bi... I wanted to jump up and scream I'm a lesbian!!

It bothered me soooooooooo much how he mocked that gay guy... Why does it matter that he is gay. It wasn't important to the story...

Tis is why I can't tell my family about me

I don't know what I'm going to do...

How can they ever except me? You can they love me after they know...

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Default Feb 21, 2013 at 12:21 AM
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I am sorry you have to experience that. Unfortunately a lot of people still don't understand that homosexuality does not make you lesser. It is still a stereotype that many people haven't overcome.

What would happen if you spoke to him calmly about his view? Question the accuracy of what he is saying and doing? I know that sometimes people don't realise how offensive they are being until called up on it. Unfortunately there are those who do know though and don't care.

I am sorry you are having to struggle through this on your own - is there anyone you can talk to? A friend, counsellor or someone else you are close to? You shouldn't have to go through this alone.

Also I would suggest having a look online for different articles and resources about telling family. It shouldn't happen but unfortunately this kind of issue is far too common
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I am sorry you have to experience that. Unfortunately a lot of people still don't understand that homosexuality does not make you lesser. It is still a stereotype that many people haven't overcome.

What would happen if you spoke to him calmly about his view? Question the accuracy of what he is saying and doing? I know that sometimes people don't realise how offensive they are being until called up on it. Unfortunately there are those who do know though and don't care.

I am sorry you are having to struggle through this on your own - is there anyone you can talk to? A friend, counsellor or someone else you are close to? You shouldn't have to go through this alone.

Also I would suggest having a look online for different articles and resources about telling family. It shouldn't happen but unfortunately this kind of issue is far too common

He would probably blow up and might beat me. He isn't reasonable and he doesn't listen. He doesn't even think that all of the laws are meant for him. He bows and doesn't care. He is just ...

I don't have anyone to talk to IRL. I am completely alone...

I don't know if I should tell my parents anything. They will freak! And that is an understatement.
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I do not think that you should tell your parents. For one, please do not place yourself in a dangerous situation. For another, you should tell about something so deeply personal only if you trust the people you are confiding in. Based on your posts, your parents have done absolutely nothing to deserve your trust.
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I agree with Hamster on this. I would be careful about placing yourself in a dangerous situation. Confrontation seldom works when people have convinced themselves they know all the answers. Also one can only confront someone from a position of strength which you do not have with your father. I would think carefully about sharing things though with people, regardless or who they are, if you are not in a place of trust and it is not a safe place to do so.
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I do not think that you should tell your parents. For one, please do not place yourself in a dangerous situation. For another, you should tell about something so deeply personal only if you trust the people you are confiding in. Based on your posts, your parents have done absolutely nothing to deserve your trust.
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I agree with Hamster on this. I would be careful about placing yourself in a dangerous situation. Confrontation seldom works when people have convinced themselves they know all the answers. Also one can only confront someone from a position of strength which you do not have with your father. I would think carefully about sharing things though with people, regardless or who they are, if you are not in a place of trust and it is not a safe place to do so.

I want to tell somebody. I hate bottling things up. It tears me apart. I don't know what I should do. It really bothering me.
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I want to tell somebody.
That is OK. Then you need to find that somebody, but not choose your parents to be that somebody, for the reasons already discussed.
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