Sex takes too long on meds

I started taking antidepressants (prozac 20 mg) recently and it has made sex take longer to finish than it used to. My doctor recomended that I don't take them on the days I want to have sex if I experienced side effects. When I first started taking them I couldn't achieve orgasm. After ahour I stopped. It didn't feel like I was close and she wasn't having fun anymore. Then when I skipped a day I was able to finish but it took like an hour. Before the meds I usually have sex for like 20 - 30 mins.

Is there anything that a guy can do to achieve orgasm faster? Having sex for an hour is nice, but it gets to be uncomfortable. She stays lubricated but after an hour both us are sore. Sex was better when it didn't last as long.

When I am by myself it takes like 5-10 minutes. It takes longer with her because I am enjoying things and not rushing to finish. Also when she has an orgasm I slow down because she become super sensitive and she needs a break for a few seconds.

One option is to switch meds, but there are only a couple without side effects. I would hate to change meds if this one work to something that may not work. So far there hasn't been any other side effects, except I was super anxious the day I skipped the meds.

Any advice? I know most people have the opposite problem.

Dang meds!

There is always a down side ~ always!!

Something about your post makes me think that you're the one on top usually, doing the work. Is that right? If so, maybe you should try changing things up a little bit. Have her be on top and pick the pace. You can hold her hips and watch her work for pleasure.

I would think that in itself could be exciting to you. And, as she gets close to orgasm, you could roll over on top of her and finish to bring you both there. Hopefully, it wouldn't take long for either of you to reach that point.

That's my advice. Best wishes to you both!

Adam,

One obvious thing to try is lower the dose, because many side effects are dose dependent. The smallest dose of PROZAC is 10 mg. Ask the p-doc to prescribe twice as many 10 mg pills so that you get the flexibility to experiment.

Adam due to my meds I think I forgot what real sex is. My meds killed my sex drive and my ability to have O's. If I know something is going to happen then I can skip my meds for about 36 hours before I get to weird to function. I also take my meds at night so if I do end up having sex it is not completely useless. It is a lot more work involved then I like. O's shouldn't be exhausting from the amount of effort involved. There ar to many other positive reasons for it to be exhausting. Reasons the meds killed. Some folks have added wellbutrin w/ success it just gave me endless days of no sleep and that doesn't work for me.

So at this point my meds work well and we don't want any more children anyway so no sex is fine w/ me. Plus I have other relationship issues at play here to. But if me and my H ever do get along again then I might start cutting the dosage little by little.

Hope you find something that works. Like my brother in law says, meds are supposed to make your life better not making you feel worse because you can't preform like you used to. Now how is that gonna make you feel better. Agreed.

With how long it takes me to ejaculate (very short), I would love to take something like that to get me going for awhile.

I had this problem on Zoloft & my pdoc switched me to Viibryd. So far the sexual side effects haven't returned.

Pbutton, Zoloft is what I take, Viibyrd huh I will have to look that up. Never heard of that one.

I still want sex mentally and emotionally, but my physical sex drive is very low, and I (and my doctor) believe it's due to my meds. My pdoc gave me an allergy pill that, I guess, is supposed to help with sex drive, but I'm supposed to take it two to three hours before I want to masturbate. Thing is, it has side effects, too, and I am always nervous about side effects of a new medication. Also, I want to have a normal sex drive, where I don't have to plan to have sex. I mean, if I'm not feeling like having sex at a specific moment, how can I say, "Take a pill and make yourself want it"? I don't want to plan my sex DRIVE, more specifically.

Certainly.

That's how I feel. Sex should he spontaneous and intimate. It isn't that romantic to plan for sex. I like the chase so to speak. I lien touching her (not grouping) to see if she is in the mood. If we plan for it, then it is like a chore and not a special activity we both enjoy.

Adam,

On Geodon 160 - 180 mg, I had no orgasms.

On Geodon 80 mg, I had orgasms, but they are were a bit mechanical and not a full-body-mind experience. Sort of too local and too physical. And, I had no sexual fantasizing.

Off Geodon, I have full-fledged orgasms and, little-by-little, am resuming fantasizing.

This is to illustrate that side effects are dose-dependent and I would at least try to reduce the dose of Prozac.

Also, try to take Prozac as soon as you wake up. It is a good idea generally, since Prozac can produce insomnia if taken later in the day, and doing so might make the blood concentration of Prozac smaller by night.

I take it when I wake up. It seams to help so far. I still get some insomnia though. It is managable so far.