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Aug 18, 2013 at 08:29 AM
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is this possible?
I feel it is my best chance with a woman because I already am able to chat with her and she is single . |
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Aug 18, 2013 at 09:28 AM
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It's illegal. On her part, it would be unprofessional. Do not attempt it.
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Aug 18, 2013 at 11:16 AM
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Yes its against the physicians code of conduct. She could lose her license, plus this would interfere with your therapy as well. Perhaps find a woman who has similar interests and get to know her on a friendship level.
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Aug 19, 2013 at 11:50 PM
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It is not illegal in the States, but therapists are prohibited from engaging in sexual contact with clients for reasons of professional ethics mentioned by Lynn. But no, not illegal - illegal is something that YOU as a client would be at fault for, which is rather absurd. The only person at fault is the Therapist - in other words, you can try dating her and she would either explain why it is not OK, or, even discontinue you as a client. But you can ask what you want - the onus is on her. You can do whatever you want.
as far as asking her out goes. Caveat: Unless it is different in AU. |
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Aug 19, 2013 at 11:56 PM
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Maybe I don't want to date her, but she could dance with me or hold me, that would be great. Maybe this could be part of therapy.
I got this idea from Skipper talking about her sex therapist and I remembered that there are certain types of therapists out there who educate their clients by having intercourse with them. I am not expecting this level of intimacy with my current therapist, but something maybe in that direction. Maybe even just holding hands. |
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Aug 20, 2013 at 12:01 AM
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no, that is a sex surrogate. regular therapists with psych licenses do not do that in the States. Unless it is diff in AU, which it very well might be, because in AU disabled people are eligible for subsidies to pay sex workers, but in the States this notion is unheard of. So you need to find out - but do not ask her directly. Call the licensing board and ask the bureaucrat who answers the phone - this way if the answer is "no", you won't have any bridges burned with the T - you will have talked to an anonymous bureaucrat.
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Aug 20, 2013 at 01:01 AM
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The APA says heck no and they make the rules for all the states...and if your T would like to keep her license she will tell you no as well. See beforehand and then the last paragraph sums it up, but even that 10.08b section covers pretty much EVERYTHING.
A T would basically have to be ready to do the equivalent of presenting a case to the grand jury, and this is 2 years post termination...because another T WILL tell the APA of their actions even post 2 years. Ts who date former clients are NOT looked upon well in their little T environment. Sexual involvements with former clients: A delicate balance of core values |
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Aug 20, 2013 at 01:04 AM
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Try asking her for a hug first, see how that goes
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Aug 20, 2013 at 01:09 AM
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My brother once fixed me up with a neighbor who was a psychologist. She was pretty flaky.
Maybe this isn't such a good idea. The sex surrogate sounds interesting. Quote:
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Aug 20, 2013 at 02:06 AM
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Aug 21, 2013 at 04:03 AM
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I like the subsidies idea, and i was told I would qualify for disability on account of my mental health issues.
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Nov 04, 2014 at 05:39 AM
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while it would be a bad thing to date your T (if nothing else it wastes your time and their effort in therapy) I see no reason not to transfer to another T (you are no longer her client) and then asking her out as a non client. of course there may be certain rules regarding this as well, like in one case I know of the answer was not until 2 years after discharge.
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