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Default Nov 30, 2013 at 08:51 PM
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I personally don't see a difference between "kink sex", "making love", "screwing", "stock pot sex-low & slow" etc. it's all intercourse. I can't judge the difference as long as it's enjoyable

The flavor of the evening depends on my mood & H mood too. It's got to match.

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I guess for me I've made the distinction between f****** and making love because to me, the first of the two implies for me that there is no emotional connection whatsoever. It's almost as if we are using each other to satisfy a physical urge and that's it. The second for me implies that there is an emotional connection and there is something deeper and more meaningful than just satisfying those physical needs. I obviously prefer the latter of the two.

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I think having fetishes and engaging in a kinky lifestyle can certainly help those with mental health issues. The feeling of escapism and freedom helps clear my mind I am certain. I'm not that crazy sexually, but yea sometimes it can be good to go a little wild. Anyone else agree?
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A subject close to my floggeruh eruhm heart. I've been in the lifestyle for a few years
I now require my partners to be kink-aware. I'm a sadomasochistic switch. I'm Always in control even when I bottom. My mental health takes a dive when there's no kink. I haven't had a good beating or good sex in months.

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Vanilla sex is my fetish.
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A subject close to my floggeruh eruhm heart. I've been in the lifestyle for a few years
I now require my partners to be kink-aware. I'm a sadomasochistic switch. I'm Always in control even when I bottom. My mental health takes a dive when there's no kink. I haven't had a good beating or good sex in months.

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Again the issue of having that control can make a huge difference. Control to me equals power.

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Default Dec 05, 2013 at 01:44 AM
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Yes, to a certain to degree. But to each their own I guess. As long as no ones getting hurt . . .
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I have a really bad fetish for tights (pantyhose). Im a 36 year old man and 100% straight but can not stop fantasizing staring at women wearing tights and also love wearing tights myself . Is this Ok ?
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I have a really bad fetish for tights (pantyhose). Im a 36 year old man and 100% straight but can not stop fantasizing staring at women wearing tights and also love wearing tights myself . Is this Ok ?


Yes. IMHO this is fine. It's a fetish.

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Yes, to a certain to degree. But to each their own I guess. As long as no ones getting hurt . . .


To my masochistic self....this takes all the fun out of it!

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Vanilla sex is my fetish.
Wearing tights Is my fetish i absolutely love them
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I have a really bad fetish for tights (pantyhose). Im a 36 year old man and 100% straight but can not stop fantasizing staring at women wearing tights and also love wearing tights myself . Is this Ok ?
It is way okay!! It's just that there will always be others who for some reason will try and dissuade you from being okay with it. Think vegetarians vs carnivores. Clothes can be changed whereas closed minds often cannot be. I can't help looking either and I've been wearing for as long as I can remember. I'm 61 now.
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The reason is because NO ONE teaches us that it's acceptable....until we find that secret garden ourselves.

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