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Oct 28, 2013 at 01:43 AM
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For some reason when I watch BDSM porn online and see this so called humiliation I get aroused yet no matter what humiliating act I see I still feel like nothing could be more humiliating then telling my girlfriend I like bondage. I mean when I think about it I think I'd rather be flogged and beaten in public than tell the girl I love I want to treated like a dog and also dominate her from time to time.
I think whether you are top or a bottom it can be the most humiliating thing to tell someone your most intimate desires. That being said I'm curious how do you tell someone your kinky? |
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Oct 30, 2013 at 03:25 PM
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I noticed this post a while ago but hesitated to respond since I'm no expert. However, since no one else is offering an opinion, I'll chime in.
I think it's ok to want to explore different things. If I were you, I'd introduce the topic very slowly. Sometime when you're relaxing in bed, tell her you were curious about the whole bondage thing and wanted to know how she felt about it. Hey,with all the press about "50 shades of grey" (no comment on if it's good or not), I can't believe it would be such an odd topic to at least bring up. Also, I think how well you trust each other plays a big role in this. I'm not sure exactly what you mean by dominating her from time to time (as far as what specific acts you fantasize about), but if you put the focus on her, then how can it not be intriguing? If she's tied up and you spend time pleasing her, and she's 'off the hook' for pleasing you, sounds good to me. |
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Oct 30, 2013 at 09:14 PM
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Oct 30, 2013 at 09:49 PM
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It might liven up your sex life
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Nov 23, 2013 at 07:04 PM
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Try to bring it up sensitively and with maturity.
If you are both comfortable with one another you should be able to talk about anything. If the other person reacts badly just shift the subject. |
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Nov 24, 2013 at 04:39 PM
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To be honest, I'd probably just watch porn with them and choose a BDSM one just to test the water on their reaction. If they seem cool with it, I'd probably casually bring it up that you'd like to try it - if they say no, they say no but either way, you find out
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Nov 24, 2013 at 05:43 PM
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You have 3 options:
1. Tell her. 2. Don't tell her, and just surprise her in bed with it. 3. Ignore it completely. Wouldn't it be cool if she's too scared to tell you that she's into that too?! |
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Nov 24, 2013 at 05:59 PM
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I would bring it up in a light-hearted manner, gauge her reaction, and then go from there.
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Sep 03, 2014 at 11:13 AM
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Why don't you just put her over your knee, give her a good spanking, and see where that leads.
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Sep 03, 2014 at 04:52 PM
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Here's how I broached the subject to my husband...
"Honey, I wish you would take the restraints and tie my arms back, bend me over the bed, caress my rear-end tenderly and then give it a good smacking. I like the way my butt tingles afterwards. Then pull my hair - a little - and tell me you love me, and I'll do whatever you want." It did not pan out the way I had hoped. He's not a sexual person, and he thought it was silly. He also has rheumatoid arthritis in both of his hands, so if he smacks something the wrong way, it's excruciating to him. Long-story-short, he told me to find a bang-buddy the other day (because I am a nymphomaniac and I kind of hate it and we've been together for 17 years, so he claims he has no insecurities when it comes to me just wanting to use another human being to fulfill my "sexual needs"). I probably won't do it. But it would be tempting to find a willing Dom, to use-once-and-destroy. __________________ The secret of life is easy. "Make use of suffering." It makes the good times that much better.
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Sep 05, 2014 at 06:49 AM
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I think more women are into it, mostly being the dominated, than they admit. That's why 50 Shades did so well. It's what a lot of women want but wouldn't dare say out loud.
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