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May 18, 2014 at 05:08 PM
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I don't really know where to start with this post. I'm having trouble staying aware when my partner and I are engaging in bdsm acts. I get to this place where nothing hurts, I'm spaced out, I hardly notice if I'm bleeding or if there are red marks. Nothing can get me out of this place, I'm wondering if it's triggers from my abusive past but honestly I don't see this as a bad thing, I'm not in a bad place when I space out. I don't really know what I'm asking, I guess I wanted to see if anyone else has experienced this.
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May 19, 2014 at 10:58 AM
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Firstly i think for the purpose of effectiveness, BDSM aspires to be safe sane and consensual. If your partner is regularly inflicting injury, i should think that behaviour falls outside the boundaries of common practice.
I'd also be concerned as to why you're willing to engage with something you don't state as being useful. You may not be able to work out an answer to this alone and so i wonder if a professional can help you decide whether your idea of BDSM is really appropriate? Good luck. Last edited by ifst5; May 19, 2014 at 02:17 PM.. Reason: forgot a word. |
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May 21, 2014 at 10:19 AM
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A spaced out sensation like your floating, probably on cloud nine?
It's what's referred to in the scene as sub-space |
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May 23, 2014 at 02:08 AM
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I don't have a direct experience but from what i have read, no, it is not subspace because your descriptions are so different from what others describe, and because you sound so neutral and detached. No "ahh subspace" but "whatever it is as if I were watching a movie and not participating and I do not care".
I do not know exactly what it is but it starts with the letter D. Derealization, dissociation, detaching from experience - one of those. |
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May 23, 2014 at 02:11 AM
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So maybe cloud four-five. But nine, no 
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Sep 01, 2014 at 03:26 PM
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I see a Parallel between getting spanked or whipped and Transcendental Meditation. Think about it. In TM a repetitive mantra sends you into blissful trance. Spankings and whippings are certainly repetitive. And believe me, when I am getting a whipping I'm not thinking about anything else. Maybe that 'place' your talking about is a sort of transcendent state. |
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Sep 03, 2014 at 02:58 AM
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Yes, i have experienced it many times and i find it very relaxing and calming. Usually a shock of say ice if you are under for too long will bring you out of it. Even sometimes a change in where your partner is hitting or a different toy will bring you out of it. i however usually get ticked off for being brought out of it because i like it there. It is like being in another place all together and a calming. When you come out of it you should feel at peace, groggy/sleepy if slowly brought out of it. i.e. a mild change in pace, but that depends on how deeply you are into it. Or if you were rudely brought out of it i.e. the ice trick.
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Sep 06, 2014 at 05:36 PM
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05-18-14, 03:22 PM is the last timestamp of a post by the OP. No point to continue since OP is gone.
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