Question to Hetrosexuals

I would have had a problem earlier, because I wanted children with my man. And wouldn't want him to change into a woman.

But, now it wouldn't matter so much. (Of course, I have a hubby of long-standing! I would be surprised if he decided now to change, but I would be okay with it, I think.)

Personally I found this post to be most interesting. Thanks, Mike, for putting it up! I'd just like to add something here, again, as an untransitioned MtF transgendered person. And, perhaps this perspective comes from the fact that I never did transition. I know this perspective won't be popular with trans women as a whole.

I accept the current theory that transsexuality is a condition brought on by hormonal errors that occur in the fetal development process. At least this is the current thinking. So I accept it until such time as a better theory comes along. As such, the brain & the body do not match. We cannot change the brain, so instead we change the body.

There is no question with regard to the fact that genetically, trans women still carry the XY chromosomes. But, to me, this is not really relevant to my perspective. It is a given. What transition is about is bringing the body in line with the brain. So, yes, were I to transition, I would be a genetic male who had brought my body into line with my brain. To me, this does not make me truly a woman. It makes me a male who has had his body altered to appear as female as possible. This is essential since it is the only known treatment available for transsexuality. And being transsexual can be a death sentence if it is not treated.

But I don't think we should fool ourselves that a male who has taken female hormones & had surgeries becomes a true woman. She is a genetic male who is transsexual & who has undergone treatment for this potentially deadly condition. As such, while I hope I would not judge her for having done so, I would equally hope that she would have disclosed her status early on in our relationship. I think it would be important to have it be out in the open as early in the relationship as possible.

we are all the sum of our experiences and our past. that being said who we are is not always who we were. this applies to everyone no matter their gender or preferences. speaking purely for my self if I were dating a woman and found out she used to be a man, I seriously would have no problem with that (providing of course I found out by her telling me and not finding out from other means. shows she is not hiding anything.) as for a pre op woman, it would largely depend on the person, and the relationship. I personally feel that if two people cared enough about each other accommodations can be made to the mutual support of both parties what accommodations get made again depends on the couple, and their relationship. I am a straight heterosexual male, and I have met someone who is a transsexual. pre op, or post op, I don't know, and at this point in time I really don't need to know. and because I do have a somewhat romantic view of her it wouldn't matter because accommodations could and would be made.

While I consider myself heterosexual, I'm far from homophobic. I keep an open mind and believe if two people love each other, sexual orientation is not important. Love is all you need, and regardless of what sexual orientation you are, if you have love, you are way ahead of the game