Hello

Hello, guess i can post in many of these forums as my life has been filled with many issues. childhood abuse, fear of beer drinkers because of it, self harming, running away (as soon as i became old enough to do so, in my teens), some wanker and drunktard lover blamed me to be an uncontrollable child for the numerous times I did run away and it was me that was locked up in juvie because of it and not the arse that deserved it. Now a masochist, sex hater, literally and without question as it is painful to have it. Not the sort of pain that i like. Had children because i just did not want to be alone in life and wanted a real family. Now 42, i do not involve my children in my choosen lifestyle. Anyhow, i do prefer Sadists as most of them do not like vaginal stuff and can live with **** and mouth only. i am thinking now of another branding. it is an addiction (maybe) but my choice. The only issue i care about is however is i do feel odd even amongst my fellow bdsm peers as other masochists do still enjoy sex and i don't and when others in the community speak of forced sex it is still not for me and i often wonder if they too fake liking sex as i cannot see how anyone could really like it and often think women fake to please men as that is what i have done my whole life.

Hello, weirdone! I wouldn't be surprised of some of the folks who are into your kind of sex are just faking. I can't imagine you'd be the only one.

Well, I do know sometimes women fake orgasms...I'm by no means an expert on that, but...lol I know it's a thing. :P

If I may...I must wonder if your perception of sex for others is based upon your own negative experiences with it. That is perfectly, 100% understandable of course...if you've known something to be bad, it's difficult to understand why others enjoy it. Like spicy foods, in a way...my buddies often wonder why I would slather hot sauce on near *everything,* and I can't make them understand that I like it. Since they perceive spicy foods as painful or unenjoyable, it's an alien concept that I would willingly seek to make my own food hotter than the fires of Hell (it's true...you should see what I can do to a bottle of cayenne pepper flakes or, God forbid, sriracha sauce). It's an odd analogy, but do you see my point? Perception is based upon our own experiences. If you have known something as bad, that influences your perception of it.

Granted, there's nothing necessarily wrong with that...please don't think I'm judging your perception. I don't mean to do that in any way. It may, in the long run, be beneficial to see a therapist if you're not already, as they could help dissociate the negatives from sex,. But I don't mean to impose.

And...pardon the overactive protective instinct, but...please do be careful with the brands? Burns pose a significant risk of infection...I wouldn't want to see you hurt.

All of my best,
Harley

Yeah i really believe it could be because of my experiences as a child, that i do not like being touched there at all. As for the hot peppers and hot spices etc... i would happily join you on that just to scream out whoooa hot. lol Yeah, i am a fruit cake for that sort of thing. like eating rhubarb straight off the plant and torturing myself with a shrivelled up face from the bitterness. Anchovies are the worst and literally will make me barf, but ha haa Thank you also for your concerns about branding, i know full well and will not make the same mistake twice and know now to load up on polysporin and keep the area where the brand goes in totally loaded with it at all times and that it heals much better and protects from infection. But, even then i did manage to clear up the infection on my own. The internet is a great place for getting answers of what to do.

I would wager so, hence my suggestion for a therapist. It's not imperative, I don't think, you *have* to like sex. Really, I don't think that's necessary, and not my aim in advising that. I don't think though it should be something so alien as to be hated. While not, I think, strictly necessary you enjoy it (which I don't think is overly important), it shouldn't invoke a conscious contempt.

As far as the brand goes...my advice? lol I'll confess out of concern I'm still not crazy about the idea, but to keep things safe, my advice would be to thoroughly treat the area with rubbing alcohol before anything (of course for the love of all that's holy, don't do it while the alcohol is wet). If at all possible, try to treat the area with a cold, wet compress after the fact...I don't know exactly how feasible that is in the context of play, but it should be done. You'll want to cover the area with a sterile bandage that should be changed regularly, making sure the material isn't something that is prone to lint, such as cotton. Based on what I've read, neosporin is good for burns...I've heard greasy ointments are bad for burns, but the internet is telling me contrary...it has been quite some time since I went through first aid training in JROTC, I'm afraid.

Post...um...lol event, keep an eye out for signs of infection: any seeping (particularly pus, in which case please seek medical aid), redness around the area (I suspect redness due to secondary heat from the material, but anything that looks like red tendrils coming from the area is a major red flag), and fever are all major signs. Just to be safe. I tend to lean towards paranoia in things like this, and I'll confess my knowledge of branding in a sexual context is practically nil, but...do be safe?

Hugs and all of my best,
Harley