I don't know how to determine my sexuality to people

Since I have GID, I can't quite tell how to let others know my sexuality.

As a female, I'm hetero, I know because I like men only and would only date them. However I've never dated before because I'm scared to date and I'm not all that open about myself to let any guys in particular know my 'other' self.

Considering my options, mentally however, with my male persona, I'm also hetero with women but the likely-hood of dating one would be slim because of my female persona overruling the matter. On the other side it wouldn't mean I'd not like to be with one or having a loving, affectionate relationship. Sexually I'm not interested in it, an actual relationship with a women would only be as far as I'd go if I'd really go for it.

The confusion with it is, I'd know all together I'd be considered bi-sexual and with all knowing that, I'm fine with it, but explaining that to someone would be difficult because, mentally I can't configure what gender I want to be with.

Trying to put it in a way so it's easier to figure out, with a female physique I'd rather be sexually attracted to men, meaning I'd only like dating them because I'd rather be considering them as someone I'd only want to have sex with, but mentally having a male persona gives me the attraction to be with women also, but not sexually. Instead of wanting a sexual relationship with a women, I use my fantasies to make up my male character and do it that way while masturbating about it. Problem is, I don't know how I'd put it for someone who was determining what I would then be considered sexually.

I've dated girls online before and had sex with them over text and online chat. I've even done gxg rp or bxg rp, with me being the boy. Reality wise is where I don't know that makes things hard to determine.

Even if I want a healthy sexual relationship with a man with my female persona and afraid to date them anyways, the thought of having a literal sexual relationship with a man scares me. I don't date because of that reason and because the thought of dating and having a responsibility for that person shy's me away and shutting people out. Since I also have APD, that's the whole reason why, which also leads me to fantasizing about sex with men and masturbating to that as well.

With all this in mind I'm all in aspect uninterested in sexual relations with both genders, leaving me to think I'm asexual, maybe.

I just really don't know how to describe it and knowing for sure what I am sexually, I'd really like a good answer if anyone can help me figure this out with me.

Hello SleepingSiren: I don't have much of anything to offer with regard to your post except to suggest that, if you don't already have it, some therapy with an experienced gender therapist might help you to sort this all out. Also, there is a Transgender Forum here on PC. You may find you will receive a better response if your post is moved over there. Best wishes!

Ok, thanks you. Yes, I do have a therapist actually, but right now it's for my APD. I'll be moving onto my GID after I find myself capable of controlling my emotions first.

You dont have to have a certain sexual label. We really dont need that, in my opinion. We are sexual, that is all.