My boyfriend has sex with his own mother... GSA

They still cannibalize, etc in other parts of the world. Doesn't make it right. It's like saying, Robin killed himself so it's fine if I do too. Or worse.

Oh Nevermind. I know what I know and it sickens me that anyone would make excuses for this.

He's clearly ill, and has a lot of issues that he needs to work through.

That said, if my mother were ten years younger... who knows

Right, but that's just evolutionary biology, which does not apply if there is no conception.

I don't think the point here is that the affair is with his mother-- or whether that is inherently right or wrong. The point here is that your boyfriend has been cheating on you for months, exposing you to possible STDs, lying to you, and disrespecting you. He only told you because he wanted to get you involved in a threesome. I think the biggest issue here is why that was something you were willing to accept? Why was that not an immediate deal-breaker? I think that means you are also may benefit from some self-reflection and counseling. Anyone deserves to be treated better than that.

As for GSA, I am very familiar with the concept (from an academic perspective; not a personal one). I think the problem in your boyfriend's case is not that he has these feelings-- but that he chose to act on them in the way that he did. Rather than seeking counseling to work through his feelings-- or even entering into a loving and truthful relationship with his mother-- he chose to act out in a destructive way, lie to his sexual partners, etc.

Clearly, there are some self-esteem issues here on both ends. I think each of you probably need individual therapy to figure out what is best for each of you, separately.

So we've got one BF who's screwing his own mother, another who's into rape porn.

We just need a " My Boyfriend's a goat ****er " thread.

And before any of you's judge, as long as the goat consents, I don't see a problem with it.

Lycanthrope, you goofball!

I didn't read all of the responses.

NO. NO no no no no.

Go. Just get out.

I don't care who argues what about morals or mores or ethics.....

GET OUT EVEN IF YOU DON'T WANT TO.

ETA: My answer is based solely on the OP's question.... TONS of red flags pop up for me. I feel that he might have an agenda. I feel that he knows what he's doing. I feel as if he's dragging you into something....I don't know what and it may just be that needs help. Or maybe something else.... But so far, he's a liar and a cheat. Aren't you worth more?

Me. I do, IT.
It is wrong to have sex with one's mother.

Good God in heaven WTF?!?!?

A stepmother's fair game though. As long as she isn't too old.

Is this a joke thread? God I hope so.

hamster-bamster, you have misunderstood completely. What makes incest a taboo is NOT that people have known each other all their lives and lived together as a family - it is that people are related. I mean, no one cringes if you **** the neighbour next door who was like a brother to you when you grew up. Even though the social dynamics in that relationship might have been exactly like a sibling relationship would be. What makes it a taboo is that you are related to someone. He came out of that woman's vagina, that's what makes it disturbing - not that she'd older, I couldn't care less about that (nor that a woman in her 60s has sex - I sure hope I do when I'm that age).

I agree. This is quite scary, and you should never accept that fact that he's cheating on you. Let alone with his own mother. Ugh.. Woah.

The fact that he likes it says a lot. It's wrong on all levels and for all this time he has been cheating on you, have you considered he told you that because he feels guilty that he's with you and doing it? Not about the fact that he's actually having sex with his mother.

Is this really a trait that you want a longer term partner to have?

Whether it is or isn't his fault, it is dangerous for you, and he is putting you in all sorts of danger.

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A question: Is he really trying to get better/get help if he wants include you in something that he knows is wrong? Someone else posted that he's grooming you.

Is it possible that he told you all this because he sees that he's able to get you to accept it and not run away?

Because he's trying to engage you in something that is wrong I'm afraid for you.

I know some of these posts may be direct or seam stern in tone but it's because no one wants to see you get hurt.

I was emotionally/sexually abused as I'm sure others have been who are reading this thread.

What your boyfriend is doing is wrong and it/he is a danger to your mental health. This must be so difficult for you as you have feelings for him. Clearly he also has feelings for you but they are for reasons different than love.

Love wouldn't put another person at risk/ in danger mentally or physically.

The only reason it's wrong is because of genetic problems that occur when related people procreate, right? So if you wear a condom or take the pill, that no longer becomes an issue and they are consenting adults who are not doing anything wrong.

I agree that if both are consenting adults and using protection then there shouldn't be any criminal charges. But there's something not right about it.

There's a huge emotional problem too. The fact that a mother will always be in a positron of power over her child. And with that power comes the responsibility to do the right thing and not psychologically **** up your child by using them for sex or abandoning them. Or abandoning them, then showing back up in their lives 30 years later, stirring up all their emotions, THEN using them for sex fire 10 years, further complicating their emotional sense of well being and fears of abandonment.

There are so many things wrong with this situation it shouldn't even have to be debated. It's not just a genetic problem. It's so much more than that.

Ignoring the huge emotional implications of being abandoned by your biological mother then later having her come back and use you for sex is ludicrous.

To further add, you could argue that the boyfriend here is grooming the original poster. Which is true.

But the boyfriend here has also been groomed by his mother. And that mother clearly has problems probably stemming back to her parental relationships.

You can only fight abuse with compassion and understanding. It won't be easy, but if this man is worth it, you will put in the effort. You have to be 100% honest with your feelings. You won't be able to solve anything by hiding from your feelings.

You have to make it clear how much he's hurting you. If he really loves you, seeing you hurt will hurt him too. He will cry. He will have no choice but to change or lose you. If he doesn't care about your feelings then that is your clear sign to leave. He's not ready to change.

But first you need to be brutally raw and open with him. If you don't do this now you will never know, and keep on going living a lie. Is that what you want?

No? Then talk to him.

You mean you EX Boyfriend !