mmm sex

i miss it :-(

a love affair... thats what i need...

;-)

(something to control for a while)

i'm so %#@&#! transparent.

sigh.

i hate myself

wah

a really great VBrator......and you are set.......

(something to control, hee hee)

lol

lol. i don't think i'll be getting one of those (for a couple of reasons)...

firstly because they are NOISY and my neighbours are NOSEY.

secondly because...

this isn't a moral thing...

but i do have a concern about training ones body to have a sexual response to OBJECTS. i masterbate... but i do have a bit of difficulty with the idea of using an implement.

though yeah, there are limitations with hands ;-)

though... is it about treating a person as an object??? little fun... we'll both like it i promise ;-)

the right ones aren't noisey......

i don't see it as "training" your body to respond to objects. i see it as a partner/substitute when you need it. you can even name it..........

girl, this is 2007!!!!

well...

i guess i have the same emotional response to the thought of my partner using a blow up doll or an artificial vagina as a 'partner substitute'...

i'm not morally objecting.

i'm certainly not objecting to masterbating...

but i don't much like the thought of training ones body to sexually respond to objects. whether it is 2007 or 5007 or whatever... i just find the notion a little icky.

what i really need is an actual live person methinks... sigh. no contenders...

:-(

I actually know what you mean, Alexandra. I hope you find someone soon (( Alexandra ))

i don't want you to feel "icky"............."icky" isn't good. i guess i see it from a different perspective and that's okay.........xoxoxo pat

I do know what she means - it took me a while to, um, get used to a partner again after my stint as a single chick between first and second marriages when only BOB was in the picture. I know both of you pretty well and it might not be so much of a differing outlook/perspective as it does the way our minds/bodies respond.

I have no problem using a vibrator or a person. I prefer a person, and I didn't need to "train" myself to respond to an object. It responds to touch, and it doesn't know if it's a person or an object.

A different side of the sex/toy story -

My husband and I use adult toys together..... due to the fact that some of my medicines make it harder for me to reach the point of no return while my husband is usually off and running like a microwave with just one touch, therefore, being able to share different adult toys together greatly helps me get closer to the finish line without actually finishing with the toy.

Now it is possible (once again) for my husband and I to enjoy the "BIG O" together...... just like old times, but with a twist - for now we have a latex friend to share the moment with - lol lol lol.

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Hmm. Well... Different strokes for different folks, I guess ;-)

I'll admit I've never tried using a vibrator before. I guess I have a bit of an aversion to the thought of it though. I guess that is coming from the notion that you can train your bodys responses in certain ways.

tone -> shock
tone -> shock -> fear
tone -> shock -> fear
tone -> fear

One hypothesis (which may or may not be correct) is that fetishes are such pairings of certain kinds of objects with sexual response. And massochism is a pairing of pain with sexual response. I guess I find my hands to be adequate for my purposes... While I'm sure I could overcome my aversion to objects triggering a sexual response (by pairing an object with a sexual response so that eventually the object becomes a conditioned stimulus for a sexual response)... I think I'd really rather not.

That being said... If I was in a relationship and my partner really wanted to try it I guess I could give it a shot. Maybe. No objects are harmed ;-)

I guess I have more of an aversion to porn...

But I dunno. Different strokes for different folks I guess...

Though Mavens notion was interesting in the sense that it is a response to touch rather than an object per se...

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Hmm. Well... Different strokes for different folks, I guess ;-)

I'll admit I've never tried using a vibrator before. I guess I have a bit of an aversion to the thought of it though. I guess that is coming from the notion that you can train your bodys responses in certain ways.

tone -> shock
tone -> shock -> fear
tone -> shock -> fear
tone -> fear

One hypothesis (which may or may not be correct) is that fetishes are such pairings of certain kinds of objects with sexual response.

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I understand what you are feeling and the why to it - and I personally feel that one should never do any thing they are not comfortable with.....but I am all for trying it once - other wise how will you know if you are truly uncomfortable with it or not or if you like it or not, and you just might be shocked (in a good way) at the pleasure you can indeed receive from a sex toy.

Plus.... know that we have a goody box of adult toys, some meant for his pleasure and some meant for my pleasure (and some we share together) - therefore - we do not always know what the other person may pick from the goodie box on any particular day or night.... so no issue with becoming objectified to an object for pleasure and please keep in mind that it is not the same experience every time you use a sex toy.

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I can list the link to the site I use to buy my adult toys from off line..................... IF - I get an OK from one of the Mods or Admin on being able to do so here in the open forum. - or IF any one is interested PM me and I will PM you back with the LINK.

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LoVe,
Rhapsody -

P.S.
You can do a search on here for the term "Sex Clue" and learn some more about how one can (and does) become sexually clued to what they see during the moment of their orgasm.... I always make sure that my eyes are wide open and that I am seeing my husband during this time - and the eye to eye contact can be ever so explosive at times.

WOW!! - I think I need a cigarette just thinking about it - lol.

lol.

> I am all for trying it once - other wise how will you know if you are truly uncomfortable with it or not or if you like it or not, and you just might be shocked (in a good way) at the pleasure you can indeed receive from a sex toy.

Hmm. Yes, thats true, I might be.

I guess I just don't have a particular desire to get my body responding to objects. I'm fairly sure it isn't so hard to train your body to respond... I just don't have that particular desire I guess.

But if I was in a long term relationship looking for something to spice it up... I might well feel differently.

:-)

I have an adult toy that hubby and i use together sometimes. In fact he bought it for me! i hardly ever use it alone, but i have been known to use it a few times by myself !

can i just say to everyone who posts in this thread and on this part of the forums... WOW. you all impress me so so so much and im learning so much from you all! maybe one of these days seeing you all talk like this will give me the courage to join in.
so...
for you all!

I would say lets keep links to these kinds of websites limited to PM, simply because of our young viewers here.

Thanks,
Rayna