NEVER take your sexuality for granted- I hate my fetish

I am a 24 yo male medical student and I have a fetish for male underwear/embarasment/wedgies. Sounds weird, I know. I'm a medical student and you'd never know it by looking at my accomplishments. Truth is this fetish piece of my identity tears me apart slowly every day.
I want to be a family doctor when I graduate. All I want is the enjoyment of helping heal my neighbors, and the simple joy of raising a family. I want kids and a beautiful wife and a crazy family to love. I used to think that getting perfect grades and getting into medical school and advancing my career was what I cared about but its not. I realize being a father and being loved and loving others is what's true and pure in life...
I mention this because I feel like my fetish is taking all that away from me. Its not something I can control. I'm a virgin and feel like I always will be. I recently dated a beautiful kind woman who I couldnt love because I was too anxious about how I would never be able to perform in bed. I could never enjoy myself enough when we were out places. I realize that your sexual attraction to someone in a relationship is huge and is a crucial part of any relationship. I can't get an erection over females because of my stupid fetish, even though I love women, am engaged when making out, but am anxious.
Its not that I'm gay. I've explored that a little bit and it's not who I am either. In fact, I might be happier that I could finally LOVE someone if that was the case but its not. I can only love inanimate underwear that I put on and movie scenes.
I saw one psychiatrist because I realized I can't help my self alone but I wasnt impressed. He said since I'm still high functioning that my problem isnt significant enough to treat. I have no better idea right now of if or not it's treatable or fixable. I dont know how to do this by meself and that's exactly how I feel - alone.
I hate that I have this stupid fetish. I hate every part of it. I've never acted on it to hurt others or anything like that. But it stands to be the sole reason why I can never love anyone and will be alone forever. I think about 'why me' all the time and hate that I was made this way. So many people take their sexuality for granted. I want to help myself or get help but dont know what to do.

is there anyone else out there that has had a similar problem? Anyone know if this can be fixed? Im so scared about my future and I just want to be healthy.

I'm not a CD. But I find I am very attracted to TS people, like ladyboys. Especially if they look highly feminine, which a lot of them do. I've even thought about seeing a TS escort. If that makes me into a poof, I couldn't care less. My life, my sexuality.

People worry about the opinions of others way too much and it stalls their personal processing.

I don't have that problem but I do have a bit of advice. You should go to a different pdoc or a Therapist for a few counseling sessions. The first doc you saw was wrong as far as I am concerned. When the problem is affecting your life and you think you need treatment then you deserve to get it. You seem like an intelligent, caring person and you deserve to have the life you dream of and if you think counseling will help you get it then go for it.

I don't have a fetish and I agree with Jelly-Bean. Your problem may not have been serious enough for that particular pdoc -- maybe he deals with severely mentally ill people and a fetish doesn't mean a person is ill -- but you're still deserving of help.

I'd recommend a non-medical therapist or even a therapist specializing in sex problems. There could be several ways to go at addressing the fetish. For example, maybe a therapist could help you accept it without shame or help you let it go or help you feel more comfortable with your performance anxiety so your romantic life can improve.

There's nothing wrong or sinful or shameful or harmful or bad about your fetish, as long as you don't use it to harm others. The only unfavorable thing is that it's causing you so much distress and interfering with your intimate relationship

Somewhere along the line you got turned on by this particular thing. I don't know if people have success getting rid of fetishes -- many fetish lovers post here and maybe they can answer -- but I do know that people can successfully learn to accept themselves, channel their sexual fetishes in a way that doesn't harm themselves or anyone else and learn how to let go of shame. You deserve that. I hope you will find a therapist to help you.

I wish you the best.

I think you need to embrace this fetish! It part of who you are! Why are you shaming yourself about it? Bec it's not socially acceptable? You'd be extremely surprised what happens behind closed doors & IMHO I think everyone has some dark fetish. I have many.

But this fetish makes you unhappy....bec you've probably been raised w/ a Norman Rockwell pic of life in your head. We are all human. We're all different.
Yes I agree w/ the others AFA getting counseling, seeking a therapist....sex therapist if you can find one & maybe there's a happy medium you can come to.
Please stop beating yourself up over the fact that you're different than others. You can make this work....& still be happy.
Peace

I guess I'm a bit disappointed that a med student doesn't know how psychiatry works. If you went to a psychiatrist, of course he's going to say he can't treat you as you are high functioning and there is no PILL to fix this kind of fetish. YEP, psychiatry is all about pushing pills. Most psychiatrists don't do therapy, their only function is to diagnose and give you medication. You should find a therapist who specializes in sexual disorders in order to work through your fetish issues.