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#21
There's really nothing wrong with telling a white lie about having some experience. It's not like your hiding a venereal disease.
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I honestly don't feel comfortable in that case especially if I'm asked for details. Plus, in any event, I'll be found out anyway when it happens 😢 __________________ "Start perfect, get better every day" Good for absolutely nothing & doing even less Reality is not realistic |
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I don't know anyone who is trained to have sex. When you meet the right person you'll just do it naturally. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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#24
I feel like virginity at my age is a disease. I mean when someone tells you that it's a dealbreaker, you're screwed. I've tried the illegal way & that didn't work. Is it hard for someone who wants premarital sex to accept a virgin male my age with absolutely no reservations at all?
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#25
You just need to find a nonjudgmental woman. They are out there waiting to be loved by someone like you.
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#26
Where? So many think men who haven't had sex by my age don't know how to treat a woman and are screwed up. If I don't lose it by my 35th birthday, I'm ending my life (and I've told my therapist this).
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Please do not end your life! Tell women you have some or little experience as you are looking for real love. Why do women need to know you have no experience? Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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I'm just frustrated by the circular logic: isn't it supposed to be love that ignited sex not the other way around? __________________ "Start perfect, get better every day" Good for absolutely nothing & doing even less Reality is not realistic |
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I personally never press a man for sexual details of his past. What kind of women do you meet that they wNr detail? There is "no supposed to" in life. Many things happen for many reasons. I want to be in love prior to considering sex and at this point in my life wouldn't have sex unless I love someone but I had sex with no love in younger age and I didn't die from it I don't think sex all by itself would cause love. But I know people who had sex very quick but ended up falling in love I think you concern yourself with rules and how things supposed to be. Life is too complicated for rules Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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I don't think I worded what I meant to say quite well. What I wanted to say is that at my age, prior sexual experience is a prerequisite to having a relationship. Backwards, hell yes. But the sad truth. __________________ "Start perfect, get better every day" Good for absolutely nothing & doing even less Reality is not realistic |
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I understand it is hard to fake but .....Who the heck asks you that???? Positions stimulations what the heck? I am almost 50 and have been married as well as have been in many relationships etc I never asked a man about sex positions or foreplay he had in previous relationships. The heck who are these women? And no men ever asked me that. We ask each other maybe what caused divorce etc but not how we had sex!!! Are you dating some trashy or crazy people? Buy a conform and practice putting it on by yourself it shouldn't be a problem. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Really? She asked you about sex and that early? How inappropriate. Listen I don't want to offend so I am sorry if I am off base here but why don't you have it once with a prodtitute ( not off the streets but some escort service) then you can't d we say you are a Virgin? Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Can't afford one session? What do they charge? Do you work? They rip you off but don't provide sex? I am really trying to help here but I am starting to feel there is more to this. More problems than lack of sex. Are u in therapy? Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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#37
Earlier you said you just want a loving relationship rather than doing porn. Could you join an online dating site and specify that you have "limited experience", and see what kind of responses you get? Don't focus on your lack of experience during the date though, and there's no requirement to divulge that you're really a virgin. Some women may not care for various reasons, they're too self-absorbed or have low self-esteem, they think you're really attractive to the point they don't care about anything else, they're just happy to finally meet someone without an STD, etc. Don't worry about being clumsy during the foreplay. Some women just won't care and may actually find it adorable. That's just the way it is. Hey, if a neurotic guy like Woody Allen can do it, just about anyone can.
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That is awfully expensive! I never knew. Omg how unfair didn't show but too your money Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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You are so right. I personally only care if we have feelings for each other and we have good relationship then it is all fine. It all comes natural. Sexual experiences don't mean that much to many women Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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#40
The stigmatizing continues. Now virgins are seen as hateful, pathetic, vicious scum who are angry at the world. I can't fight through every stereotype so much longer. Either I have meaningful sex or I die, end of story. Literally no one wants to date a 40 year old virgin so I won't give anyone that chance.
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