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Default Feb 07, 2015 at 12:55 AM
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There's really nothing wrong with telling a white lie about having some experience. It's not like your hiding a venereal disease.
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There's really nothing wrong with telling a white lie about having some experience. It's not like your hiding a venereal disease.

I honestly don't feel comfortable in that case especially if I'm asked for details. Plus, in any event, I'll be found out anyway when it happens 😢

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It may be a relief but I feel as if I am meant to be lonely because I have never had sex and need to be trained. I'm looked down upon as a little boy since I've never had sex, since what real man hasn't at my age.

I don't know anyone who is trained to have sex. When you meet the right person you'll just do it naturally.

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Default Feb 14, 2015 at 01:57 AM
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I feel like virginity at my age is a disease. I mean when someone tells you that it's a dealbreaker, you're screwed. I've tried the illegal way & that didn't work. Is it hard for someone who wants premarital sex to accept a virgin male my age with absolutely no reservations at all?

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You just need to find a nonjudgmental woman. They are out there waiting to be loved by someone like you.
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You just need to find a nonjudgmental woman. They are out there waiting to be loved by someone like you.
Where? So many think men who haven't had sex by my age don't know how to treat a woman and are screwed up. If I don't lose it by my 35th birthday, I'm ending my life (and I've told my therapist this).

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Where? So many think men who haven't had sex by my age don't know how to treat a woman and are screwed up. If I don't lose it by my 35th birthday, I'm ending my life (and I've told my therapist this).

Please do not end your life! Tell women you have some or little experience as you are looking for real love. Why do women need to know you have no experience?

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Please do not end your life! Tell women you have done or little experience as you are looking for real life. Why do women need to know you have no experience?

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I'm sure I'll be found out if I'm pressed for details.

I'm just frustrated by the circular logic: isn't it supposed to be love that ignited sex not the other way around?

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I'm sure I'll be found out if I'm pressed for details.


I'm just frustrated by the circular logic: isn't it supposed to be love that ignited sex not the other way around?

I personally never press a man for sexual details of his past. What kind of women do you meet that they wNr detail?

There is "no supposed to" in life. Many things happen for many reasons. I want to be in love prior to considering sex and at this point in my life wouldn't have sex unless I love someone but I had sex with no love in younger age and I didn't die from it

I don't think sex all by itself would cause love. But I know people who had sex very quick but ended up falling in love

I think you concern yourself with rules and how things supposed to be. Life is too complicated for rules

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I personally never press a man for sexual details of his past. What kind of women do you meet that they wNr detail?

There is "no supposed to" in life. Many things happen for many reasons. I want to be in love prior to considering sex and at this point in my life wouldn't have sex unless I love someone but I had sex with no love in younger age and I didn't die from it

I don't think sex all by itself would cause love. But I know people who had sex very quick but ended up falling in love

I think you concern yourself with rules and how things supposed to be. Life is too complicated for rules

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The details I talk about are positions, foreplay, stimulations, etc. Even if I B.S. about that (i.e. I can say my partner always was dominant) there are some things I can't fake, like putting on a condom (protection is mandatory for me when starting with a partner).

I don't think I worded what I meant to say quite well. What I wanted to say is that at my age, prior sexual experience is a prerequisite to having a relationship. Backwards, hell yes. But the sad truth.

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The details I talk about are positions, foreplay, stimulations, etc. Even if I B.S. about that (i.e. I can say my partner always was dominant) there are some things I can't fake, like putting on a condom (protection is mandatory for me when starting with a partner).


I don't think I worded what I meant to say quite well. What I wanted to say is that at my age, prior sexual experience is a prerequisite to having a relationship. Backwards, hell yes. But the sad truth.

I understand it is hard to fake but .....Who the heck asks you that???? Positions stimulations what the heck? I am almost 50 and have been married as well as have been in many relationships etc I never asked a man about sex positions or foreplay he had in previous relationships. The heck who are these women? And no men ever asked me that. We ask each other maybe what caused divorce etc but not how we had sex!!!

Are you dating some trashy or crazy people?

Buy a conform and practice putting it on by yourself it shouldn't be a problem.

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I understand it is hard to fake but .....Who the heck asks you that???? Positions stimulations what the heck? I am almost 50 and have been married as well as have been in many relationships etc I never asked a man about sex positions or foreplay he had in previous relationships. The heck who are these women? And no men ever asked me that. We ask each other maybe what caused divorce etc but not how we had sex!!!

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Well I'm doing mostly online dating, so I don't know them beforehand. The last person I "dated" was asking me about sex before our 2nd date

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Well I'm doing mostly online dating, so I don't know them beforehand. The last person I "dated" was asking me about sex before our 2nd date

Really? She asked you about sex and that early? How inappropriate.

Listen I don't want to offend so I am sorry if I am off base here but why don't you have it once with a prodtitute ( not off the streets but some escort service) then you can't d we say you are a Virgin?

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Really? She asked you about sex and that early? How inappropriate.

Listen I don't want to offend so I am sorry if I am off base here but why don't you have it once with a prodtitute ( not off the streets but some escort service) then you can't d we say you are a Virgin?

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No offense taken. I have been ripped off multiple times by escorts, and another one rejected me due to my virginity. Plus I can't really afford one.

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No offense taken. I have been ripped off multiple times by escorts, and another one rejected me due to my virginity. Plus I can't really afford one.

Can't afford one session? What do they charge? Do you work?

They rip you off but don't provide sex?

I am really trying to help here but I am starting to feel there is more to this. More problems than lack of sex. Are u in therapy?

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Can't afford one session? What do they charge? Do you work?

They rip you off but don't provide sex?

I am really trying to help here but I am starting to feel there is more to this. More problems than lack of sex. Are u in therapy?

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I'm talking $800-900 a session. I paid multiple times for different escorts, but none showed. I was given several excuses but never got money back. Yes I work, but I have bills & student loans to finish. And yes I'm in therapy for anxiety, specifically social anxiety.

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Earlier you said you just want a loving relationship rather than doing porn. Could you join an online dating site and specify that you have "limited experience", and see what kind of responses you get? Don't focus on your lack of experience during the date though, and there's no requirement to divulge that you're really a virgin. Some women may not care for various reasons, they're too self-absorbed or have low self-esteem, they think you're really attractive to the point they don't care about anything else, they're just happy to finally meet someone without an STD, etc. Don't worry about being clumsy during the foreplay. Some women just won't care and may actually find it adorable. That's just the way it is. Hey, if a neurotic guy like Woody Allen can do it, just about anyone can.
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I'm talking $800-900 a session. I paid multiple times for different escorts, but none showed. I was given several excuses but never got money back. Yes I work, but I have bills & student loans to finish. And yes I'm in therapy for anxiety, specifically social anxiety.

That is awfully expensive! I never knew. Omg how unfair didn't show but too your money

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Earlier you said you just want a loving relationship rather than doing porn. Could you join an online dating site and specify that you have "limited experience", and see what kind of responses you get? Don't focus on your lack of experience during the date though, and there's no requirement to divulge that you're really a virgin. Some women may not care for various reasons, they're too self-absorbed or have low self-esteem, they think you're really attractive to the point they don't care about anything else, they're just happy to finally meet someone without an STD, etc. Don't worry about being clumsy during the foreplay. Some women just won't care and may actually find it adorable. That's just the way it is. Hey, if a neurotic guy like Woody Allen can do it, just about anyone can.

You are so right. I personally only care if we have feelings for each other and we have good relationship then it is all fine. It all comes natural. Sexual experiences don't mean that much to many women

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The stigmatizing continues. Now virgins are seen as hateful, pathetic, vicious scum who are angry at the world. I can't fight through every stereotype so much longer. Either I have meaningful sex or I die, end of story. Literally no one wants to date a 40 year old virgin so I won't give anyone that chance.

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