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Old 04-06-2007, 11:52 AM #11
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I have to say that I am reading this thread and nodding my head. I have never had a relationship with a woman either, but I have to say I've been curious about it. My girl friend and I were talking about this just last week, about wondering what it would be like. We even talked about mutual female friends who we find attractive. We often refer to each other as "girlfriend" because we spend so much time together and admitted to each other that if we were gay, we would so be dating. I've often wondered about my sexuality. I guess I can say that I'm bi-curious. Curious since I've never tried it, so I don't know.

So Mouse, I think more of understand than you thought.....thank you for bringing this up!!!!!

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Honestly mouse, I think this is another part of your wanting a mother figure. Think about it...its the same as your crushes....see if it was a lesbian who loved you..a man couldnt take her away...like your mother and father..whether he took her away in good or in bad...also i see it as sort of a domination ...not to be harsh or anything on you of course...but you could probably never control the way your mother felt that day or how she would react..youd feel helpless in trying to please her or whatnot..with a lesbian loving you and you not having to do anything its like your contrroling that woman you are able to not have to put as much energy and time as you did with your mom. And you feel like you may be lesbian because of these feelings only because society states...if you have any feelings what so ever for the same sex it is probably because your a lesbian...or gay...but i think this is just more deeply involved with your mom then maybe you and your t have gotten into good luck!!! Love, Inny
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Inny! You maybe right...you have actually put into words what I was trying to..but making a big hash out of it!!....I was asking someone else this same question...I said is this part of my fanasy of wanting that perfect mother love? but now as I'm an adult, sexual feelings come into it as well...yes domination does seem a biggggggg part of it...I havent yet brooched this subject in therapy...I will now!
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maybe we think about what it is/would be like with other women because our men don't give us what we need/want. just a thought.
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maybe we feel that we would be nurtured more with another woman????????????

and that is stereotyping all of us. but, it's true. sometimes i think a woman would understand me much better than a man does.

i've always had close lesbian and gay (guy) friends. i'm very comfortable with them and sometimes i'm not all that comfortable with straight men.

good thread. pat
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i agree with inny, your desire seeems to want to be accepted loved, and wanted. It sounds very much linked to your experience as a child. I have the same desire -- to have a woman validate you and say you are okay. You are wanted here. Its hard when you didnt get that. ((((((mouse)))))) but you are TRUELY wanted here. You are kind and insightful in all your posts. We care!
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Nina, you have taken a big step in discovering yourself. I am so proud of you. It is so hard to keep feelings like this repressed. It will be a journey. I will be here for you as always. Altheia
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I can't tell you all how much exploring this subject has helped me!! Its like a big gray cloud has been lifted.

Thanks to all of ((you)) That helped me in this thread!!
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Mouse you are in the company of family and friends..
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