Not Sure

So first of all I'm not sure this is the proper thread for this but here goes.

So I have no effing idea where my sexuality lies. I (Male) am attracted to women but every now and then I find myself attracted to certain types of males (mostly effeminate ones). Not at differing times, but sometimes I think it'd be nice to have both another man and a woman in the same room and we all just go at it. However I face a huge fear of societal rejection if people were to think I liked men along with women. I know for certain I'd probably be an outcast to some, and while there are groups of people that feel the same way, I just....... I dunno, I want to be happy being myself, but in this society it is primarilty frowned upon (even though the LGBT...community has made huge progress in the face of haters). I have never had the chance to explore since I feel a but paranoid someone will find out. And I'm not sure that this classifies as bisexual or something, so once again......I dunno

I'm not trying to sound ashamed, I just have no idea what to do at all.

You are right that society as a whole does not approve of bisexual people. However, there are a lot of people who have that interest and practice it. All I can tell you is to follow your basic instincts. You will find your own group of people that understand and will be there if you do try to have bisexual relationships. Just be very sure inside yourself that this is what you want to do.

There are lots of people in the world in a similar situation to yours, myself included. I've known I'm bisexual since my early teens. I liked girls, but in absence of any luck finding a girlfriend, I turned to my male best friend and we have a homosexual "sexual" relation for a while. I eventually found a girl, married and had kids...but I'm still bisexual.

I feel lucky that I have actually experienced sexual relations with both sexes...I do KNOW who I am. I too would like to have a life with both male and female sexual partners. The reality is that this just doesn't happen...no matter how much we want it to.

As Jelly-Bean noted, you need to follow your instincts and figure out what you really want. So long as you are comfortable with your own sexuality and desires, what other people may or may not think is irrelevant. I am comfortable stating that I am bisexual (to those that matter), and I have no issue telling those people that I still have desires for men (I tell my wife at least monthly that I'd like to have sex with her and another guy). You need to find your comfort zone "inside you" before you seek to find it with the rest of the world.

My daughter is bisexual. Rather open and very comfortable about it. Well she doesn't go with both genders at the same time lol but equally attracted to both.

She is married now to a man but her last live-in relationship was with a woman, 4 years. She always dated both genders.

Her husband of course knows, she told him that she is bisexual on their first date. He is ok with it. Many people wouldn't be. They have a great marriage. The way she puts it when she loves the person
she doesn't think of their gender just of them as people.

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