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Old 02-24-2015, 01:45 PM #11
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Ugh I did it again last night...I masturbated to pictures of girls I know who aren't her on facebook. I feel so bad...I can't help but feel like I'm wronging her and that she deserves someone better than me who won't do this. I feel like I am being dishonest with her in some way. I have a tendency to obsess over things and create problems for myself, but I don't know how to let go of these feelings of extreme guilt...are these feelings justified? Am I being to hard on myself?
Hee hee, hard on yourself! Cute. There is nothing wrong with masturbating. When one does it in public though, like dressing rooms and such, that just might be a little much. Quit feeling guilty! I masterbate all the time! It sounds like she's into it. Own it! How about including her in your fantasy life? Share yourself, or let her watch! My partner likes to watch. But, if you feel like it's a problem, just stop or seek professional help because it sounds like your stressing over it.
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If you honestly feel that bad about it then I'd just straight up tell her. It wouldn't be right to keep secrets in a relationship, especially if they're constantly making you feel awful. Considering her attitudes towards you masturbating in general than I'm sure she'll be understanding.
If you feel like you aren't comfortable masturbating at all then don't. But if you feel like it just makes you unloyal or unfaithful to her than just talk it through. You'll feel a lot better after expressing yourself to her.
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Okay so I told her about it last night because it was bothering me a lot and I couldn't stand feeling guilty. It wasn't really a big deal to her at all.

But now I feel really guilty about masturbating to pictures of people I know, regardless of how she feels about it. I feel like it's a really objectifying thing to do, and I feel like by doing it I am almost betraying the trust of the people whose pictures I have used. I have just decided to take a break from masturbating in general because of the stress it's been causing me, but I don't know how to move on from this guilty feeling. I feel so so so bad about doing this and I feel like I don't deserve to stay friends with the people whose pictures I used. Also, I realized that in the past I used a picture of a girl who is two years younger than me, and I feel like I did something horrible by doing that, since I am only in my first half of college...am I wrong for doing that?

I know that these obsessive patterns of thought are characteristic of OCD, and I am gonna seek professional help, but I don't know how to move past these feelings of guilt. I feel like I've made huge mistakes. Everybody else just uses porn, but I did this terrible thing by objectifying and betraying people I know...how can feel better about this? I can't stop thinking about it...
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Yeah, even with porn, I feel you are taking it too seriously. Perhaps there is a part of you that enjoy feels being 'disgusting'. Just a thought.
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