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Default Mar 11, 2015 at 07:07 PM
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Okay so my boyfriend and I have been talking about sex. I asked him what he wants or desires me to do and he said oral. He wants to ejaculate in my mouth and I don't want that. He also desires other things I don't want. Idk what to do because o don't want him to feel like his desires are being suppressed I just don't want to do those things. I think semen in the mouth is disgusting. No offense to anyone. I just don't feel comfortable. It's makes me want to cry because I want to make him happy but I just can't do that. Any advice?
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Default Mar 11, 2015 at 07:38 PM
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I like to give oral so no advice from me lol I also swallow. Lol

But There are things I wouldn't do . I had a bf who wanted ****. ( the word is blocked?) He was first begging then tried to guilt me. The answer was NO. Maybe Other women
Don't mind, I do.

Now if you denied him love or quality time or sex all together then it would be a problem, no one dies of lack of oral sex Ambivalent decisionshe will survive

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Default Mar 11, 2015 at 07:45 PM
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I like to give oral so no advice from me lol I also swallow. Lol

But There are things I wouldn't do . I had a bf who wanted ****. ( the word is blocked?) He was first begging then tried to guilt me. The answer was NO. Maybe Other women
Don't mind, I do.

Now if you denied him love or quality time or sex all together then it would be a problem, no one dies of lack of oral sex Ambivalent decisionshe will survive

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Thank you for your reply. I agree with you. I just need to stick with no because I'm not denying him love or sex altogether.
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Default Mar 12, 2015 at 06:39 AM
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I would offer that too much "no" could become an issue. Obviously you don't want to be doing anything that hurts or is demeaning to you. Just be careful that sex doesn't become all about your fantasies and needs and wants and don't address his. If you don't want something, don't expect reciprocity.

Communicate and compromise and work out what works best for both of you so you can both give as much as possible to the other.

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Default Mar 13, 2015 at 09:27 PM
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Before I met my husband, I had a boyfriend for whom I could give oral and swallow with no problems. It never bothered me, and I liked how much it made him enjoy himself.

I tried that with my husband all of once! Something about his semen just tasted so horrible I gagged like crazy and very nearly threw up on him. Not very romantic. He's tried changing his diet, even eating fruit exclusively for a few days ahead of time, but it still just tastes so horrible that I can't stand it.

For a long time, if I was giving hubby oral to completion, he'd just tap me on the shoulder and I'd pull back, and he could cum into a wad of tissue. This worked well, for a while, till he told me that it felt un-romantic, and it was bothering him. I still can't stand the taste of it though, so I figured out a few compromises.

1. If I know I have time for a shower afterword, I get him just next to cumming and then let him cum on my breasts
2. If there isn't time for a shower, I get him really close, then I put the tip of my tounge against the roof of my mouth, sortof making a barrier. I can still suck on the tip, and use my hand on the shaft, but when he cums it doesn't get up in my mouth, and because it's only touching the bottom part of my tounge I can't taste it. It does end up making a bit of a mess, usually all over my chin and dripping back down on to him, but whatever - it makes him happy, and I don't have to taste it, so it's a win win.

I hope you both are able to work out some compromises. You both deserve to have your fantasies indulged.

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