What would you do?

tigersassy · Mar 31, 2015 at 10:14 AM

I have a friend who I was really good friends with for most of school. After I came out she freaked out and didn't want to friends anymore. Since then she's gotten married and divorced. Had to move back in with her parents and from what she told me today has basically reverted back to a teenager with her parents paying for everything. Plus she apparently has no friends. She contacted me thru Facebook today wanting to try to be friends again. I want to be open to it, but I'm hesitant because now I'm happily married to my wife who is the same person I was with when she freaked out. I guess I'll just have to see how it goes.

sideblinded · Mar 31, 2015 at 08:21 PM

tigersassy

Sometimes people have a change of heart. I would give her a chance and see. You never know. I don't think she is wanting to be friends to cause you any harm. That just doesn't make sense. You could try to chat with her to find out where she is at. I hope you find the answer. Take care.

Ruftin · Mar 31, 2015 at 08:30 PM

(((ts))) I've had friends drop me like a hot potato and years later try and come back into my life. I don't think true friends do this personally. I wonder why your friend wants to come back into your life? I wondered why my ex friends wanted back into my life? I was never brave enough to ask. I ran the other way. I would not do this but you may want to ask her why first and base your next move on the answer you receive. I'm sorry, I know this isn't very helpful. I usually run from people who've hurt me, but at the same time I know I have never given them a chance to make things right either.

Webgoji · Apr 01, 2015 at 08:40 AM

Personally, I would forgive them and be friends. Let them make things right again.

eskielover · Apr 13, 2015 at 11:07 PM

Just because they come back to be friends again doesn't mean that even they think it will be at the same level that it was previously & sometimes it's just to be acquaintances again rather than the close friendship that it was before.....there is nothing wrong with that....reconnecting with people from our past is not a bad thing.....it's bad if we expect it to be the same way between each other....it's the expectations that create problems.

It sounds like she just got into a place where she felt the need to reach out to others rather than continue to stay isolated & we usually do that with people we have known in the past because we did care & it's nice to see how they are doing......doesn't mean it will ever be the same close friendship that it was before....& there is no reason to expect it to ever be that again or even that it's what they want in reconnecting.

ladytiger · Apr 19, 2015 at 10:31 PM

I would take it slow if she wants to be friends again you gotta re-establish trust and rebuild the friendship start off as if you two just met.

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sideblinded Elder Member Since Jul 2014 Location: Iowa Posts: 5,331 9 3,940 hugs given	Mar 31, 2015 at 08:21 PM #2 tigersassy Sometimes people have a change of heart. I would give her a chance and see. You never know. I don't think she is wanting to be friends to cause you any harm. That just doesn't make sense. You could try to chat with her to find out where she is at. I hope you find the answer. Take care.
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Webgoji Grand Magnate Member Since Aug 2013 Location: Wichita, Ks Posts: 3,535 10 993 hugs given	Apr 01, 2015 at 08:40 AM #4 Personally, I would forgive them and be friends. Let them make things right again. __________________ Helping to create a kinder, gentler world by flinging poo.
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ladytiger Poohbah Member Since Jun 2012 Posts: 1,075 11	Apr 19, 2015 at 10:31 PM #6 I would take it slow if she wants to be friends again you gotta re-establish trust and rebuild the friendship start off as if you two just met.
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