a tad nervous...

Hope this isn't off topic or too obscene or anything...
Here there are many questions about sex but not so many about foreplay which is what my question concerns so..delete or whatever if i'm too off the wall or something here!

I've known this guy for about a month now, and we had been dating for about half that time but were only officially "together" for a few days. Anyways I like him a LOT, more than I think I've ever liked any guy before. And I trust him, he has never and will never pressure me into anything. Unfortunately i seem to pressure myself.

The other day we were laying in the back of his car (just laying..) and we started kissing and such. One thing led to another and his hand was down my pants. Afterward I knew that he wanted me to do the same for him, but I've never done that before and would hate to embarrass myself or anything terrible like that! so uhhhh any advice on how to handle the situation would be MUCH appreciated!

don't do anything you aren't ready and comfortable to do. you haven't known him very long and i'd take it slow. if he's cool, he'll be okay with it. if not, better to learn it now than later. good luck, pat

I agree with Pat.

When I am ready to do things though, I've found a lot of pointers online.....when I wanted to try some different stuff in a past relationship, I went ivillage and just searched for something "tips for giving a hand job". Sounds funny, I know, but I got a lot of good tips that weren't gross or anything......its about confidence for me too.....and learning what guys like gave me more confidence.

Sex is usually initiated by the guy so, so far, what you described sounds totally normal.
You can play the "innocent" part without any guilt or apology...if you really like him and he really likes you, the answers you're looking for will come along quite naturally....they have for hundreds of years!
Don't overanalyze the situation...the key is if you have legitimate feelings for one another, just be yourself and you will figure it out...if something continually feels wrong or uncomfortable, then you have reason to question.

way not talk with him about it? I mean if it has come to that point in your relationship and you want to go further, than talk about likes, dislikes, concerns, expectations, and any inhibitions... But certainly if you are not ready then by all means tell him...

If you are not comfy talking with him , there are great tasteful sites online that can help you too... I know I have searched when I want to try something new...

I know teens are active sexually these days but please think about it first. so much can happen with all the std's that go around and unwanted pregnancies. Don't let a guy pressure you into it especially after only knowing him such a short time. play the wait and see game to see if it is going to be a good relationship first.

Thanks guys. I did check out some sites online and uh...apparently I did well..I'll spare the details cause I think you get it..lol.
I feel kind of erm "skanky" (for lack of a better word) becuase we were in a movie theatre at first and he just kind of put my hand on his belt and so on...and then later we were in his back seat again...

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I know teens are active sexually these days but please think about it first. so much can happen with all the std's that go around and unwanted pregnancies. Don't let a guy pressure you into it especially after only knowing him such a short time. play the wait and see game to see if it is going to be a good relationship first.

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Thanks bebop, I do think about those things. He is a virgin so std's aren't an issue but of course pregnancy always is. I think we are waiting until we are both entirely ready until/if we go all the way so we're sticking to this for now because it is safer. Oh, and he never pressured me into anything, I trust him entirely. He almost always asks me before doing anything at all.

thanks for the replies guys