How did your first time having sex changed you? If it did.

Beachlover527 · Oct 05, 2015 at 11:08 PM

I did it my first time in fear of not ever having that kind of experience till later in life. I have never been in a relationship & am not a virgin. Do I regret it? I regretted it for years esp. because it wasn't with a special person. But at the same time, I think if I hadn't done it, I would still have stayed one for a long time. I just got really impatient. I thought "Live like you'll die tomorrow" I'm glad I did it but at the same time, it feels weird that I did it because of the fear of staying a virgin.

I feel like I would've been where you are and you could've been where I am. It was just that we made different choices.

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BlueCrustacean · Oct 06, 2015 at 01:16 PM

Welp, I just told him no. Of course. He insisted yesterday that we do it tonight, but we could only do it late, and I'd have to come up with a REALLY good alibi to not totally freak out my mom, who I still live with even when I'm 25 years old, and who is very protective of me.

I literally can never decide whether this is a good idea or not. I'm ALWAYS wrapped in indecision, and it never ends. On one hand, I may have just thrown away a new experience, but on the other hand, I could have deeply regretted feeling "cheapened" by some random casual sex stranger when I'm a strong woman who has lofty career goals- not that men with the same lofty goals aren't sleeping around with any women they feel like...

UGH.

At least now I can never say I'm not a virgin by choice.

debramorgan42 · Oct 09, 2015 at 01:05 PM

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Originally Posted by SarahSweden

This isn´t a question to snoop into anyone´s life. I haven´t had sex with anybody and I´m 30+ years old. When getting to think of it, like when I sit at home watching a film or whatever, it makes me feel very ill at ease and I feel a lot of anxiety around this.

It´s not that I wish I would want to just go out and find someone random to have sex with but at the same time I feel like a teenager who never became an adult in this respect. I know I´m not the only one of course but still, it feels so far-fetched and so odd not having had sex. It´s like not belonging completely, it´s a sorrow.

Therefore I now wonder - how did your first time having sex with somebody change you? Or did it change you or your thoughts? I now think of sex you choosed to have, not being forced.

well to be exact... it was wonderful. and after it wasn't my first time, but the first I truly choose with a person I was in love with.... it was uplifting and beautyful.
And after all this... I'm still anxious and need emotional support when having a first-time with somebody, so it is fine.

ScientiaOmnisEst · Oct 09, 2015 at 08:57 PM

I spen too much time online and I've heard that your first time isn't supposed to change you. It's not supposed to be anymore special or life changing than trying a new food.

That said, regardless, sex inspires in me either disinterest, romanticized curiosity, or terror/anxiety. I'm a virgin at 21 and totally okay with that.

blondeaussie · Oct 18, 2015 at 07:31 PM

I was 16 y/o and just felt comfortable in the moment and with the person I was dating at the time. I don't think it really changed me in any substantial way.

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ScientiaOmnisEst Poohbah Member Since Sep 2015 Location: Upstate NY Posts: 1,130 8 158 hugs given	Oct 09, 2015 at 08:57 PM #24 I spen too much time online and I've heard that your first time isn't supposed to change you. It's not supposed to be anymore special or life changing than trying a new food. That said, regardless, sex inspires in me either disinterest, romanticized curiosity, or terror/anxiety. I'm a virgin at 21 and totally okay with that.
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blondeaussie New Member Member Since Oct 2015 Location: Beverly Hills Posts: 6 8	Oct 18, 2015 at 07:31 PM #25 I was 16 y/o and just felt comfortable in the moment and with the person I was dating at the time. I don't think it really changed me in any substantial way.
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