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Default Jun 14, 2007 at 09:07 PM
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I'm a young woman looking for some answers... I was raped at 13 and have never really had a relationship. So, I don't really know what physical or sexual boundaries should be. Could anyone define them for me. I need to know what is appropriate behavior and what is not. I was told that I should ask women about this but don't think that men would have necessarily the wrong answer either. Also how do u know what boundaries should be for friends versus bf/gf? That's the gist of it anyway. Whoever wants to respond thanks in advance for ur help and input.
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Default Jun 14, 2007 at 09:25 PM
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Hi Evildouble,

Kinda a general question to answer but I'll give it my best shot.

Boundaries should be set when you start a relationship and it's up to the couple to define them. For instance, if you began dating someone and they wanted to take you home and have sex, you could define a boundary that you do not sleep with people until x,y,x (your in love, you've been dating awhile, etc.).

There are people who want sex and not a relationship, so maybe their boundary is that they can sleep together but no serious relationship. See? It can be exactly opposite.

People have many boundaries that vary. Some people don't like to be hugged by friends or strangers and will say so.

The bottom line is that it is your body and you will know when it is right to go one step further. If it's uncomfortable you say so. And if that person doesn't understand or gets mad then that is their issue not yours.

I hope this helps, it's kinda a hard question to answer What is Appropriate?

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Default Jun 15, 2007 at 01:47 AM
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I think over all that YOU need to ask yours self......
Do "I" feel comfortable with what is about to happen - if the answer is "NO" - then DON"T do it.

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I personally would take it slow and not jump for the first guy that shows you attention and then wants to sleep with you ASAP! - You deserve better than that.
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