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Default Jun 24, 2007 at 12:05 AM
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I'm having a hard time getting fully aroused when I see that his penis is so small. It was great when there was foreplay but right when we had sex I just couldn't have an orgasm. This was the first time we had sex with each other and I don't know how I'm going to look forward to us having sex the next time. I wasn't turned on when I saw his penis.

I know I shouldn't be complaining because I bet there's something he's thinking about my body that he's not use to being with either.

How do you think I should work around this and to be aroused and have an orgasm? This isn't something I could talk to him about because his ego would be so broken.

Has anyone ever had this problem before?
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Default Jun 24, 2007 at 12:35 AM
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well... different guys do feel (and look) different... but given that i can have an orgasm that is stimulated by my finger i guess a guy would have to be very small indeed for me not to be capable of orgasm with them...

if looking at his penis isn't doing it for you then i guess you need to find other things that you can do with him that do do it for you. maybe... instead of there being a distinction between 'foreplay' and 'the act' there needs to be a more gradual progression of whatever it is that you enjoy doing with him.
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Default Jun 24, 2007 at 09:23 AM
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size really doesn't matter. it is what they do with what they have. some men have no clue what to do with what they have or don't have in this case.
I would say don't look at it. try not to think about the size of it and concentrate on other things in the foreplay stage.

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Default Jun 25, 2007 at 12:56 AM
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I agree here with the other two ladies..... for IF we ladies can bring our self to having an orgasm with our just hand - then a guy, no matter if his penis is smaller than the average male, should be able to get us there.

Maybe you were just over thinking the situation once you saw that he was small..... for remember:
The BRAIN is the biggest SEX ORGAN on the HUMAN BODY - stiffel it and your sexual pleasure will suffer.
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Default Jun 25, 2007 at 01:37 PM
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Jenn, are you talking about an orgasm during intercourse? I just wanted to comment on the "finger" discussion lol. Yeah a finger is fine for me for clitoral stimulus, but a finger has never made me orgasm vaginally. In fact vaginal orgasm during sex was always impossible for me until about the last year. I can understand if you're not acheiving orgasm during sex with this guy. Have you in the past, with "bigger" men? Or has it always been hard during intercourse? Many women have a difficult time acheiving during sex, if ever. I really thought I was lost cause on that front. It wasn't until I was 27 that I had my first one during intercourse. Clitoral orgasms were never a problem.

I also had A LOT of issues with sex to work though. Once I worked though all those issues, and fell in love, and have sex because I want to and not because I feel like I have to, the sex is much more pleasurable, I'm more relaxed, so more happens.

I would say its more than the penis size, but I also think that size could play a part if its not "hitting the good areas".....or something haha.

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Default Jun 25, 2007 at 01:52 PM
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I usually stay out of these discussions to save my professional face. But I have to agree with Rhapsody.

The mind is the biggest sex organ. Many people achieve orgasm without stimulation at all, using only their minds. I believe they call those "wet dreams". In any case, if you hadn't of seen his size prior to intercourse, you probably would have achieved orgasm. But after you saw it, you were not in the right frame of mind to do so.

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Default Jun 25, 2007 at 07:19 PM
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I guess I have to weigh in on this issue too... I just don't "see" size or rather lack of size as an issue... technique, feelings towards your partner, your own "mind set" as has already been mentioned, relaxation .....to me make the experience or the orgasm...rather..
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