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Old 01-30-2016, 01:14 AM #1
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I'm a very sexually active fifteen year old, and I'm not usually embarrassed about it. I feel awful when I hear someone over twenty talk about how disgusting it is for girls my age to be having sex. I've had four male partners so far, and have sex multiple times a week. I see it as something natural, I hit puberty extremely young so I'm physically mature and I consider myself more mature (mentally) than most girls my age but it doesn't stop there, I take part in many bdsm related fetishes. Choking, bondage, rape-play, degradation, spanking, slapping, being bruised, biting, etc. Is that weird??

It's always consensual, I discuss my limits with my partner regularly, I use a safe word, but no matter how I try justifying it I'm always put down based entirely on my age.. Can I please hear some opinions on this? Please don't be rude or harsh

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Use birth control and condoms. Be very careful with BDSM. Make sure they respect your limits. Are you having sex with people your own age?
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I would say the same things...Use condoms EVERY time. If the guys are in your age range. And one more; avoid guys you go to school with. They will tell everyone and it will turn into a shame fest. No one deserves that.
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I third that condoms and birth control.

Finally be really weary around guys that aren't your age. There are plenty of, frankly, criminals out there looking for a young girl that's wanting to "sow her oats" so to speak.
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Are your partners experienced in BDSM?

They should know CPR. They should know how, and when, to check the bonds for adequate blood flow. They should know what sub-space is. They should know what after-care is and how to use it in relation to your specific needs. They should know basic first aid.

I will just comment that we all think we are mature at the time we think it....I thought I was at your age (and every age after about 12...). Now I realize that I was not. I knew nothing of the psychological consequences of actions when I was younger.

My opinion (since you did ask and, so, I assume you mean you want honest opinions rather than just approval?) It is not embarrassing to want whatever you want. I think that it can be physically and psychologically dangerous to act on what you want at your age.

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I'll have to agree with Sophiesmom. It's understandable to have a want to have sex at your age. Your hormones are raging. But young people your age do not have the tools to emotionally deal with these feelings much less multiple partners and alternative sexual activities. I'll not go as far as to say that it is "weird". I'd never say that to someone who is still trying to figure things out. But I will say that I think it is dangerous. Dangerous to your physical. mental and emotional status.

You have so much living left in front of you. Slow down. You are smart or you wouldn't be here asking about this stuff. You don't need to experince everything out there before your 18th birthday.
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I agree with the slow down part. You have your whole life to experiment. Your childhood is a tiny slice of life. Savor it.
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Who is putting you down because of your age?
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