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Default Jun 28, 2007 at 10:44 PM
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I was going to post this under relationships, but I think it's more of a sex thing.

I haven't had sex or physical contact in so long I think I must be a virgin again (like 7 or 8 years). I watch a lifetime movie and sit here drooling at the t.v. I mean masturbation can only go so far and those electronic toys don't have the feel of skin and warmth like another body does.

I sometimes think I will never have sex again! It makes me quite sad sometimes when I really want the physical contact. I don't even really think it's the need for a relationship, because I'm okay with how things are. I know we just had a thread on friends with benefits and I would like that, but don't even have any prospects for that.

Does anyone feel like you are in this situation and that you just aren't ever going to have sex again???

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Default Jun 29, 2007 at 12:16 AM
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The last time I had sex was on Valentine's Day -- I won't tell you what year. Hmmm....

So yeah, I know exactly how you feel -- I feel the same way. I have no desire at all for a relationship, but some physical contact besides a friendly hug would be lovely -- and since I've moved away from all my friends, I don't even have prospects for hugs anymore. Hmmm....

Wish I had a solution for us both....

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Default Jun 29, 2007 at 09:04 PM
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i had a period like this, it lasted 7 years, then this happened, http://forums.psychcentral.com/showf...65&fpart=1 , its in the mens forum, it WILL happen to you also, needs must and all that

edited by me to say this is a mans experiance, compare notes.
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Default Jun 29, 2007 at 10:24 PM
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Mellors,

I read your posts and I've thought of that situation - would i feel cheap? And I guess I can't answer that until it happens, but if we both know what it is I won't feel that I'm using the person just enjoying what comes natural.

I'm not saying I wouldn't like a relationship, but I just can't stop thinking about sex. It's hard (okay guys, no pun intended) to imagine that it could never happen. I mean I know you shouldn't project into the future, live for today, yaddy yadda. But it has been a long time.

I go to my AA meetings and get lots of hugs from both sexes, but that is only one piece of what I crave for. I'm sure part of it is loneliness but the other part is remember how good it feels to be with someone and how I want it.

Brother - I never would have thought that it would be hard to find someone to have sex with....LOL

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Default Jun 29, 2007 at 10:36 PM
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damn, i know girls get horney too, i would just like to meet one, just once, that can keep up with me, if only for a day, is that to much to ask?
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Default Jun 29, 2007 at 10:41 PM
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I don't know how much I could keep up these days Hmmm.... but I agree it sure would be fun to find someone to try it with!!!

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Default Jun 29, 2007 at 10:46 PM
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then get your *** out there and find someone, work on the insecurities along the way, that is what i has a insecure male have done
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Default Jun 29, 2007 at 10:59 PM
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You're right - those insecurities can get ya. I was always the one that the guys came and asked about my girlfriends Hmmm....

I've actually looked out at match.com - I dont' drink so I don't do the club thing and at 42 there is not a whole lot of places to go to meet people. I have met some people at AA meetings but not really anyone for that kind of thing (plus that's really not the point of being there - although I wouldn't not be open to it!).

But you're right - I isolate so duh how do I expect to meet anyone? Maybe that frog will come in through my window Hmmm............

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Default Jun 29, 2007 at 11:14 PM
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Actually mellors (I think you might be near my age?). I have never been an aggressive one in a relationship. Do guys these days expect that woman approach them? I know with equality and all that it seems like a double standard to say guys should be the ones to approach women but it's what I'm used to.

I guess what I'm saying is would a guy expect me to approach them? Or would they think I'm too forward? And I'm not talking about sex, but just in general (relationship, date, etc)

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Default Jun 29, 2007 at 11:22 PM
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me has a 33yr old male would not discount the oportunity of a older woman coming up to me, and talking to me, i like older women, a lot...
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Default Jun 30, 2007 at 03:54 AM
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I feel like that too, but I'm only 22 so I'm (hopefully) being ridiculous. But I also want a relationship where there's lots of sex, not just lots of sex with whoever Hmmm.... I just really don't see it happening.
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Default Jun 30, 2007 at 05:43 AM
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i'm 42, married and still dont get it. horny as hell, what do i do? kife sux

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Default Jun 30, 2007 at 01:26 PM
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tranq, i guess what i am saying is be prepared to go into your own "unchartered teritory" (sp) dont discount every option, use the tools you have, and most importantly? get yourself out there and find the options that are available to you, and work from that.
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Default Jun 30, 2007 at 01:49 PM
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jinny what have you tryed?, so we can discount those has spent options, well the bad ones anyway, please excuse the puns, my bad, and the options left available to you.
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Default Jun 30, 2007 at 01:51 PM
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42, horny

meets my criteria, how basic are you prepared to go?
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Default Jun 30, 2007 at 06:41 PM
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i went 7 years "alone".......my skin got lonely.....a lot.....and i thought about intimacy on a daily basis.....anything, like a kiss on the neck.......i would have crawled over broken beer bottles.

everyone needs an outlet, if they are of the mindset that sex is natural and okay.....and i bet there are LOTS of closet masturbators out there that would never, ever admit they touch themselves..... Hmmm....or roll around on a pillow! Hmmm.... Hmmm.... Hmmm....

now that i'm alone again, i sure miss it...... ......arms around you beat a pillow......

and i'm older than dirt....so don't think you'll outgrow it....... Hmmm....
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Default Jun 30, 2007 at 07:03 PM
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horney and insiteful, damn where do i signup?
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Default Jun 30, 2007 at 10:38 PM
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pat where is bill? I think that is his name I am remembering. I hate being alone. guess that is why I am with my 4th hubby.

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Default Jul 01, 2007 at 07:48 PM
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we broke up. i posted about it. i won't move to West Virginia.....and he won't stay in Texas. geographical hangups????? Hmmm....

i'm not going to move anymore. i am sick of it. it's an amicable breakup and we're meeting in New Orleans, for a vacation, but i'm staying here........thanks for asking.....
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Default Jul 01, 2007 at 09:06 PM
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oh I see. sorry I didn't see the post. I don't read alot of the forums so was out of the loop. I hope you have a wonderful time in New Orleans though! I don't blame you for not moving to WVa though. I wouldn't either if that is not where your heart is.

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