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Apr 08, 2017 at 10:06 PM
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My situation: a new boyfriend, age 59. I am 46. We are reconnecting after a twenty year hiatus. Had sex once twenty years ago and he did not have ED. Now he has it to some extent: likes being fellated and stays hard, but does not come, yet loses erection when attempts to have vaginal sex. Says that next time he will be prepared - I take it, he means Viagra or Cialis or Levithra or whatever the newest preparation for ED is. I have never had sex when anti ED drugs were involved - at least not with my awareness, so that will be the first time. What should I expect? Do the drugs make the whole problem go away or will the guy still need special stimulation? Why he has this problem seems to be age, because he is extra skinny and does not suffer from depression or take AD's, so other than a natural malady of aging, I do not see what his partial ED might be attributed to. Please tell me what to expect, how I can make him feel at ease, and how I myself can enjoy it more - the thought of medication-induced erection is not per se enjoyable...
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Apr 12, 2017 at 11:21 AM
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I noticed no one replied. Sorry about that so I'll add my two cents of what I know.
My SO has used a rx for ED but for different reasons. First problem he had was that he combined it with alcohol! Major no no!!! No other drugs or alcohol should be used. I do know that the drug is not supposed to make sex last longer per say, not like marathon sex, but to engage in sex again within a reasonable time frame. Easier to get an erection again. I'd treat the situation just like any other & not change anything just bec he's using a drug. Maybe just see how it goes the first few times & go from there. I know if one has a side effect that there's others to choose from. Enjoy! __________________ "Doubt is like dye. Once it spreads into the fabric of excuses you've woven, you'll never get rid of the stain." Jodi Picoult |
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Apr 14, 2017 at 06:50 PM
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My other half has some Ed after investigation it was decided that it must be psychological. We found that medication doesn't really help but and experience similar to the problem shared by the OP he struggles to maintain an erection for penetration...... But after trial and error we have found a cock ring that helped the situation, we tried many different types and eventually found Durex Pleasure Ring if we place it onto him when he initially becomes hard and then take a little more time simulating him we can then engaged in full intercourse.
Ok so it's not what was required with previous partners but it quickly become a normal part of our intimacy, it's different but not something to be worried or scared of. Have fun 
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