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Default Dec 29, 2017 at 01:52 AM
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I live with my grandparents now and I feel the weight of my sexuality is resting on my shoulders. I've always been very honest with them, but I've never told them my attraction to women in fear that they will think of me differently because they are conservative Christians. I know that even if I do tell them they will love me no matter what, but I worry it may affect our relationship if I do so and I worry they will see me differently. I love them very much and I am not sure if this is something I need to get off my chest with them. What should I do?
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Default Dec 29, 2017 at 01:36 PM
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Its a very personal decision. My brother in law is gay and came out to the super religious grandfather. Grandfather not only accepted it but flew out to their wedding. I think if anything it brought them closer.

I myself announced my bisexuality on Facebook because that's just how I am. It's very freeing to have people accept you for who you are, entirely.

If it is important to you to let them know this, tell them. Especially since you say they will love you no matter what. I wish you luck in your decision.
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Well... speaking as an almost 70 year old... I'd just say that it's really an unknown. You won't know what your grandparents' reaction is going to be until you tell them. And then it's too late to take it back.

I've struggled with gender identity disorder since early childhood. And I never breathed a word of it to my parents let alone my grandparents. And, personally, I'm glad I didn't. I can just hear what my father would have said: "Jesus bud, what the hell's the matter with ya?" Personally I would just keep my sexual orientation to myself unless there's a particular reason you need to tell them. But that's just me. Good luck!

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Default Dec 29, 2017 at 11:02 PM
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What would bring you to tell them this information now?
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Default Dec 29, 2017 at 11:14 PM
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I would wait, like until you get engaged. They probably knew there was something "funny" about you since you were little and have been praying for you to marry a man.

Taking responsibility as an adult means you dont have to get your family's approval for your private life. It would be nice if they were liberals, but you say theyre not. So, you have your opinion on this issue, and they have theirs.

So far, they seem to be keeping quiet about their opinion. Dont poke the bear!
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I don't think anyone should have to hide who they are to make other people more comfortable.

There is no right or wrong answer here. You need to do what feels right for you.
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Default Dec 30, 2017 at 09:05 AM
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IMHO you shouldn’t come out to your grandparents....if you’re taking a pole. My vote is no.

You stated that the weight of your sexuality is resting on your shoulders. Personally I think that’s where it needs to logically be. Your decision. Your life.
If you open this discussion up be prepared for the worst but hope for the best.
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Default Dec 30, 2017 at 11:32 AM
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Choice is yours. Follow what feels right.

As far just telling them for the heck of it, I don't see the need to say anything unless your engaged or planing to live a life with another person. When living in someone elses home and living off of them there is only one thing you need to do, follow the rules and pay the bills
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