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Men are sometimes a bit ignorant about womenís ability to cum easily. Only small percentage of women climax during just intercourse. It doesnít mean that there are no other methods. I donít climax during intercourse but my husband is excellent at oral and hand job (but at oral he is the best), it never ever fails. So he does that first so I climax and he immediately proceed to intercourse. He feels satisfied seeing me climaxing and is ok with me not getting there during jntercourse. Maybe your guy can satisfy you before intercourse.
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If you don't mind a guys point of view, it can be a real ego crusher. My wife and I enjoyed many years of s happy sexual life. Unless She was faking it, it was mutually enjoyable. Then came the change of life for her and she could no longer climax through intercourse. This made me feel like less of a man. Her libido also took a nose dive which didn't help my ego either. It took awhile for me to understand what had happened.
I was not ready to give up this part of our life so through talking and experimenting things got better again. It takes me longer to get her motor running and I please her in other ways, one bring orally. She will usually have multiple orgasms then procede to satisfy me any way she desires. It's just become s lot more work for me.
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Women do fake it because of how frustrated men get if she doesnít climax during the intercourse. Kind of sad
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Men are sometimes a bit ignorant about womenís ability to cum easily. Only small percentage of women climax during just intercourse. It doesnít mean that there are no other methods. I donít climax during intercourse but my husband is excellent at oral and hand job (but at oral he is the best), it never ever fails. So he does that first so I climax and he immediately proceed to intercourse. He feels satisfied seeing me climaxing and is ok with me not getting there during jntercourse. Maybe your guy can satisfy you before intercourse.
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Yes, some men are ignorant of this. And, yes, I believe I will try this (ie climax before intercourse). I can climax with intercourse, but really with this one position. Otherwise it's really hard, though I have before a few times without this position. Argh. It's frustrating. i am glad you and your hubbie have worked this out though.
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If you don't mind a guys point of view, it can be a real ego crusher. My wife and I enjoyed many years of s happy sexual life. Unless She was faking it, it was mutually enjoyable. Then came the change of life for her and she could no longer climax through intercourse. This made me feel like less of a man. Her libido also took a nose dive which didn't help my ego either. It took awhile for me to understand what had happened.
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I figured it would be an ego crusher, for sure. That is why it makes it so hard in addition to how I already feel about it. I don't want him to take it personally or feel like it's all his fault. Then again, he is a lot larger than most and it's a bit uncomfortable a lot of the time, so that adds to the challenge.

It's great that you and your wife worked this out -- albeit, even if it's a bit more work.
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Women do fake it because of how frustrated men get if she doesnít climax during the intercourse. Kind of sad
I've done this, I fully admit. More than once. I do it so that the guy feels like he's doing his job and doesn't suffer because of my problem.
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I've done this, I fully admit. More than once. I do it so that the guy feels like he's doing his job and doesn't suffer because of my problem.
Personally I think itís probably much more upsetting for a guy to find out that woman lied the whole time. If you lie once, youíll need to keep lying then. Ouch. Just my opinion of course.
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Personally I think itís probably much more upsetting for a guy to find out that woman lied the whole time. If you lie once, youíll need to keep lying then. Ouch. Just my opinion of course.
Probably true. I haven't done this often.
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I find that (for me) being on top is the best way to climax...it isn't what the man does/doesnt....we (women) find the way that works best....also oral sex wrks for me.
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I find that (for me) being on top is the best way to climax...it isn't what the man does/doesnt....we (women) find the way that works best....also oral sex wrks for me.
I've only climaxed on top once in my life. Argh. I agree though. It's the way that we can find which works best for us. I found one position at least that works for me... not every time, it depends, but much of the time.
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