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I'm female and ever since I can remember, I've been attracted to both men and women, aka I'm bisexual. However, I don't get turned on by watching lesbian porn. Only straight porn. If I don't like lesbian porn, but am attracted to naked women only doing straight sex, does that still make me bisexual?
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I wouldn't think it would matter much about putting a label on it try not to worry and just roll with it. I'm attracted to men and women and don't really like female porn either. Tbh I don't find women in porn videos that attractive as they're a bit too made up for me. I prefer a more natural look and an older woman which is probably why. Also I don't think a lot of lesbian porn is made by lesbians. Think it's more straight ladies and it's mostly directed at men!
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I wouldn't think it would matter much about putting a label on it try not to worry and just roll with it. I'm attracted to men and women and don't really like female porn either. Tbh I don't find women in porn videos that attractive as they're a bit too made up for me. I prefer a more natural look and an older woman which is probably why. Also I don't think a lot of lesbian porn is made by lesbians. Think it's more straight ladies and it's mostly directed at men!
Yeah, I feel the same way. That it's more so meant to entertain men rather than women.
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It wouldn't be what it was really like to be with a woman just like straight porn isn't anything like what it's like to be with a man! It's just entertainment
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Default Re: Am I truly bisexual?

There is genuine feminist and lesbian erotica that doesn't adopt the typical 'male gaze' of mainstream porn (look for stuff by Jennifer Lyon Bell for example)

There are also many shades of bi/pan sexuality anyway, sex doesn't fit into neat boxes
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There is genuine feminist and lesbian erotica that doesn't adopt the typical 'male gaze' of mainstream porn (look for stuff by Jennifer Lyon Bell for example)

There are also many shades of bi/pan sexuality anyway, sex doesn't fit into neat boxes
Those are my thoughts too! I honestly wouldn't worry about putting a label on yourself and just go with it
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Default Re: Am I truly bisexual?

Yes, you are absolutely still bisexual. In fact, many straight women don't enjoy straight porn or enjoy it much less than gay porn(woman/woman or man/man).
The thing is that there's more to the visuals of porn than just the images of genitals and intercourse. There's usually a male gaze perspective, a patriarchal, objectifying perspective of the woman in the sex act, even when it's subtle, and your brain will pick up on it even if you don't. It's easy, as a woman, to be turned off by straight porn and a lot of the lesbian porn around.

Personally, I'm bisexual(or pansexual) with what seems to be a slightly stronger preference for men. I find straight porn to be the least stimulating because of the stuff I mentioned above. The porn I watch most is in fact gay porn and it has nothing to do with my own sexuality. I also like lesbian porn made for queer women(by that I don't mean vanilla porn).
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Default Re: Am I truly bisexual?

I'm a female. I consider myself straight but I watch lesbian porn. I've wondered before, if I'm bisexual. But in all honesty, I don't care what its called. Label Schmabel. I see myself with a guy, and am not attracted to women sexually in real life outside of fantasy. I thought this was weird until I googled it and I guess its not so uncommon. Regardless, I think sexuality in general is really interesting.
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I also have a preference for men. I'm with a man now and see myself being with a man for life. Women are more just a fantasy/idea. I get crushes on specific women that I know, but I need to know their personality first. With a man I can just be like "yeah he's hot. I like the look of him!"
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I also have a preference for men. I'm with a man now and see myself being with a man for life. Women are more just a fantasy/idea. I get crushes on specific women that I know, but I need to know their personality first. With a man I can just be like "yeah he's hot. I like the look of him!"
Same here. I see myself marrying a man and having a family with him, or just seeing a very attractive guy and instantly being like, "he's hot, I like what I see.". Whereas with women, it's like I need to know them really well and can get a feel for their personality before I can see myself with them, or it's all a fantasy in my mind. Nothing I see myself doing long term.
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