Love addiction delimma

Hello, I discovered "love addiction" when someone brought it to my attention a few years ago. I refused to accept that I suffered from it even though I nail nearly every symptom I've ever read. So I've not been officially diagnosed but I'm 98% certain. I also have a host of other issues that actually have been diagnosed with the most pertinent to this post being avoidant personality. More specifically, I generally don't like people and my goal in life is to be a recluse. it may sound like a joke but In the next 25 years or so (I'm 28) I plan to go full on hermit. Even though I prefer isolation, loneliness still plagues me like an itch I need scratched a couple times a week. Presumably part of the love addiction. As a hermit I assume I'll either hire someone to keep me company the once or twice a week loneliness gets to me, or invest in a robotic companion. My issue is, what do I do, to scratch that itch until then? Until now I've been leading women on and agreeing that I want a family, marriage, and all that but none of which is true. Obviously I'm not able to sustain a charade so I guess... I'm looking for... Advice? Are there dating sites for antisocials? Is it curable or just hardwired at this point? Should I just keep dating and pray someone changes my mind?

Hello Jayt: I believe this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral!

Here are links to some articles on the subject of love addiction, from PsychCentral's archives, that may be of some interest:

https://psychcentral.com/blog/what-is-love-addiction/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/the-pr...on-withdrawal/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/the-di...ove-addiction/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/workin...-love-addicts/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/about...in-five-words/

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