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Member Since May 2018
Location: TN
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I am looking to date again but I don’t know how. I feel lost even posting this subject here because it’s matter that fits both here and in another forum. I am into BDSM and Identify as a Omega and Little. It’s a 24/7 thing and doesn’t last in just the bedroom. I like having a partner that is in charge and that I can rely on. I need the rules to feel safe with a Dom. Trust me a true BDSM relationship is not Rape or abuse. It’s two people that are like puzzle pieces that need to fit together. Not Every Dom is a Dom though and not every sub is a sub. It’s complicated both ways. Sorry Ranting. I am a 24/7 Sub looking for a Dom; how do you find one? How do you you find anyone to date for that matter? Online? I don’t go to College yet, my works Female Dominant, and my church is mixed on a good day. How does one find someone to date if they don’t really know where to start? |
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I would suggest trying online dating. I use OkCupid I see a lot of BDSM in my area that could just be because I live in a big city so more of a diverse group of people. I honestly do not know much about BDSM but I think online dating is a good starting point if you don't know where to start and you can easily deactivate your profile if you realize it just isn't for you!
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Fetlife is a great site for like minded people. I am a submissive masochist myself. Also there are great groups on Facebook.
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Member Since May 2018
Location: UK
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Fetlife is good but bear in mind that you should always be cautious online - there are a lot of predators out there. Best thing to do when meeting people is to meet them in a neutral space with other people present, such as a cafe, a few times before going anywhere with them. And remember, anyone who ignores your limits or won't negotiate is not someone you want to play with. It's not the interesting side of things but is vital to your wellbeing and safety.
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I am also a submissive and a masochist (yes my sn is meant as an ironic joke from way back when). I would highly suggest fetlife for meeting people but look for events in your area such as munches or a possible local dungeon/play space you can visit. This way you can meet other people in the lifestyle in a safe manner because as a previous poster said, there are many predators out there. Pay attention to red flags and listen to your instincts.
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