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I don’t know if this is where I should post this question. I am sorry if this seems odd. I have been dating a man for about 6 months. I have known him for 10 years. He is quite smart, but also is often easily angered. This prevented me getting romantically involved for a long time. Once I finally slept with him it was incredible. However the last 6 month have been like riding a roller coaster. Great sex, great conversations, and it seemed like we were supposed to be together. Next thing he would get so mad he wouldn’t talk to me for a day or two. He would get in touch after he calmed down and another wonderful week with him. He says he loves me. Then he gets angry and I have no idea of what I did to cause that. I love this guy. The last month we seemed to have worked out some of that yo yo type of thing. Then a week ago after we had a wonderful sexual and loving experience. I feel this prick in my back. He was poking me with a needle. I thought maybe he was drugging me that night. I tried to grab his hand slowly to see what he had. I went home. A few days later I convinced myself it was nothing. Then it happened again. I felt something poking my skin one night like a needle or something. He had me wrapped in his arms. I kept laying there wondering what the hell. Wondering if he was doing that on purpose. I went home and found puncture marks where I felt the pricks happen. The next night when I got up there was a huge double edged knife next to him. I went home. I was scared, but again told myself it was nothing. When it happened the third time. I spoke up. I knew he was piercing me with something sharp on purpose. I looked up online and found info on Piquerism. I tried to talk to him about it. He said I was messing with his head. I should add on two occasions while he was sleeping he violently held me and said some crazy scary stuff until I woke him up. I begged him not to hurt me. Now I am scared all the time. I sent him an email saying I loved him, but couldn’t let him act on those impulses because it scares me. We didn’t talk for a few days. Last night he sent me a text and we texted some tonight. He said he loved me and wanted to come over. I told him sure, but that my best friend was at my house as well. He got pissed and told me I was messing with him. I don’t want to continue this relationship. I want to feel safe again. I won’t leave my house alone. I have my door locked and reinforced with screwdrivers. I am a bartender and have to have someone there when I close and walk me home because this fear is freaking me out. I didn’t imagine this behavior and anger. Many people feel he has potential psycho killer personality. Anyone interested in Piquerism? Am I safe?
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No you are not safe. There is a HUGE difference between consensual acts and abuse. This was abuse. There is nothing wrong with piquerism, but it is not okay to inflict injury on someone else without permission.
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I agree with TheSadGirl; this sounds like a dangerous situation. Do not doubt your intuition, your instincts. Do not hesitant to contact the police if the situation doesn't diffuse. You can even talk to them just for advice on what to do, because it is definitely a matter of your personal safety and security.
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This is absolutely not ok. Most paraphilia are ok if practiced safely and with 'consent'. However this is not the case with this guy.
And the explosive temper is something separate but equally if not more worrying. Please keep yourself safe. Tell people where you are going what you are doing. I might even consider filing an initial report to the police. __________________ I Don't Care What You Think Of Me...I Don't Think Of You At All.CoCo Chanel. |
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